What Is Bringing You Down Today

The energy is there to bring you down and it’s up to you to resist.

The work I do is all about shifting your energy and providing the tools to get you and your team into flow. This means reducing resistance, friction, or negative energy at home and at work in order to maximize your ability to make extraordinary choices with creative thinking.

A mouthful, right?

Here’s the challenge.

Your environment has people and situations that divert you from this intention.

Not you?

Well, let’s discuss a few examples.

Self-Talk

What are some of the conversations you have, with yourself or with others that prevent you from being at the top of your game? They might be something like:

• Automatic negative thoughts. These are things you think over and over again each morning and sometimes all day long. You dwell on these and rethinking ?these create your belief and brings down your energy.
• “If only” thoughts such as: “If only s/he would/could. . .” “I’d be happy if only I had a better job/results in my business.” These conversations put you in a perspective of lack, first thing in the morning. You can not make strong positive choices if you believe you do not have all the resources you need to succeed.
• Have to thoughts -Many of you begin your day with a to-do list. Do you start off with I must do something? For example, “I have to complete this assignment.” “I have to be home on time tonight.” “I?have to get dinner on the table.” Have to statements have a presupposition that this is something you really don’t want to do, so you are doing this thing with resistance.

Beliefs of others

Do you find yourself getting into a complaint session with others over things that have nothing to do with your life at this moment?

• One-upmanship: this person gains ?a feeling of superiority over you. This can be a negative conversation, “my illness is worse than yours,” or what we think is a more positive conversation, “my position/power/purpose is more important than yours.” This is where someone is ?attempting to elevate themselves at the cost of your self-worth.
• Constant complaining: this is where the conversation looks for a reason to complain. It is the only conversation this person understands. “Did you see what they did on social media today? I can’t believe that happened.” “ The neighbors have too many cars in their driveway, it looks awful.” “The world is falling apart, and I don’t know what these kids will do in the future.”
• Victims looking for the savior: This conversation is all about “woe is me.” This is the person who focuses on the hard times, sadness, or the unfairness of life. “My life is full of chaos.” “I have the worst marriage, job, family.” “I just can’t seem to get a break.” They pull you in to make them feel better, solve their problem, or go down the rabbit hole with them as a partner in misery.

Home environment

When the home environment drains your energy, you might find you don’t want to walk in that door, go to that family gathering, or be alone one more time with that other person.

• When that person dumps responsibility on you. “I need you to do this thing!” “This is too much with (or without) you around.” “I just can’t do this anymore.” This is where accountability is laid at your feet to pick up and carry, even though it is not yours.
• When nothing is right. This can be any number of things, but it is when the conversation is around what is broken, out of date, or needs attention over and over again. The complaint is there, but the action to make change is not. It is assumed your fault.
• You’re not good enough. Wow, that is something you do not want sitting on the couch with you at night. This can be a blatant “there’s something better for me out there” to a subtle non-responsive attitude (busy on the cell phone is now a great cop out). This person freezes you out (shuns you as well) in order to soothe their unacknowledged pain.

These are really a few examples of what can happen throughout the day that brings your focus and your energy down. Recognizing these conversations as distractions from your intention and learning how to recognize them as something you do not own, nor do you partake in, allows you to invite the right conversation into your life and stay “in flow” for a full and delicious life.

Getting into flow and changing your energy ?does not happen with a weekend retreat. It does not happen with reading books, reading blogs, or listening to videos. It does not happen with a deep conversation with your coach.

It takes allowing yourself to know you are worthy of self-care and self-development. It takes giving yourself permission to be the person you want to be. It takes having someone at your side guiding you through the barriers that could hold you back. It takes someone who has done it and is willing to go through it with you.

When you are ready for that partner, message me when you are ready to get into flow.