Оn March 8, in 1908, women workers in the needle trades marched through New York City's Lower East Side to protest child labor, sweatshop working conditions, and demand women's suffrage. Beginning in 1910, March 8 became annually observed as International Women's Day.
The pity is, men often remember to honor a woman only at this day…
So in my effort to change this phenomena I’m making this post FOR THE MEN!
Because even though women deserve our attention and celebrations today, men are those who need to make it happen…
First things – first, we need to separate what we think women need from what they believe they need. This does not mean, that we can’t see when a woman has a specific need. It just means, that it does not matter… It only matters what that woman realizes she needs and aims at. Or in other words – what she believes is important for her at that point of her life.
To achieve that, we need a serious dose of empathy, asking again and again 'why?', and most importantly - putting ourselves in her shoes and thinking hard about what she does, instead of what she says… Because believe me – ‘ listening’ to actions not words, will get you further!
Once we understood what she actually desires, here’s a list what are the proper ways to address every potential group of her needs:
- Safety: Make her life safer and remove any potential risks. Take responsibility, for what you couldn’t and/or didn’t think of… After all, we are the protectors…
- Health: Make sure to remove all the unhealthy influences and show some manners. Chivalry is not dead! Make an effort so that you look in her eyes as a healthy influence! Do not judge and criticize her… after all , you chose to be with her, didn’t you? Just think of all the things shoe could feel contempt and disgust towards...
- Predictability: Paint the long term picture for her. Make her feel secure in your future together. Plan with her, not FOR her. And leave the moral relativism for other situations – that does not concern her!
- Stimulation: Make her life interesting and full of surprises. But never put her in an uncomfortable or embarrassing position. Always think if those surprises could be too much for her and her abilities. Else it would be pure stress.
- Meaning: Help her understand you, by speaking her language. And yes – this means sharing your emotions. Offer only reliable, fact-checked information, and not opinions (unless you are specifically asked for those). After all, if she wanted rumors or conspiracies, she could always talk to her friends and scroll through Tik-Tok and Insta...
- Pleasure: Bring art to her life. Bring playfulness. Bring nature. Bring fun and games. Be the company she laughs with. Spare her the unhealthy pleasures…
- Achievement: Be next to her throughout the journey, support her for her goals. Offer your time, efforts and resources to help her with those goals.
- Resources: Make sure she has everything she could possibly needs (and you could afford). And, a little more. Don’t spoil her!
- Intimacy: Talk. Listen. Care about what she has to say. Give her you full attention and focus. Let her finish first (in bed). Make her the center of your world. And NEVER give your attention to other woman in front of her!
- Status: Uplift her, showcase your confidence in her abilities, tell her all the ways you are proud of her, make sure you compliment her honestly and avoid flattery. And most of all – be LOYAL! There is nothing crushing the status of a person more than an intimate betrayal!
- Rationality: Offer your rationality as a bonus to her emotionality. Do not impose it!
- Energy: Be there when needed, offer your help, but let her be her own hero. She will ask when she decides. Don’t impose your ways of doing things. Find the beauty in her ways.
- Getting along: Sometimes is OK to be the right one, sometimes is better to be happy ;) Help her realize why other people are not accepting her. But be gentle in this. Think hard if she is ready to hear it...
- Socialization: Make sure she has all the social opportunities and contacts she could possibly need for her goals. Introduce her to the right people and believe that she will make the most out of those contacts, without harming your ego…
Those are the adequate ways to take care of a woman…
And Girls, (because I know you’re reading this sh*t), go easy on us guys, we are constantly learning ;)
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