What beliefs are holding you back?

When I was 11 the deputy headmistress at school told me that I couldn’t possibly be a vet. Only the cleverest, most academic pupils could get into veterinary school and only the best and brightest of those would actually qualify.

She made it quite clear that I was not going to be one of them.

And I believed her.

Limiting beliefs like these can be very easily installed into a young person’s psyche. Children’s conscious minds aren’t fully formed until the age of 7, so there’s no “gatekeeper” to repel limiting and unhelpful beliefs.

Fortunately, it worked out for me, when I stumbled into my career with the Estée Lauder. I quickly flourished and rose through the ranks and that was when I began to realise that this idea that I was rubbish and wasn’t very bright, just wasn’t true!

I firmly believe that the deputy head was wrong to say what she said.

She could have said, “If you really, passionately want something, and you’re prepared to put whatever time and effort is needed into it, even if it’s challenging and difficult, anything’s possible.”

As Henry Ford famously said, “Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you’re right.”

Getting rid of that limiting belief was one of the most liberating and empowering things I’ve ever done.

So, it’s really important to root out and identify any limiting beliefs that may be getting in your way and holding you back.

What can we do about limit beliefs?

Firstly, understand that our beliefs, aren’t the truth. They’re just things we think. They feel real to us. Other people have different beliefs, which feel real to them. None of these beliefs are objectively true.

If I were to ask you to tell me what you believe about yourself, and then I asked your family and friends what their beliefs about you are, chances are there would be quite a few differences. Different people simply believe different things.

Limiting beliefs are what you believe about yourself that limit your abilities,. Sometimes we’re aware of these negative beliefs, while at other times we’re not because they’re unconscious. Limitations are actually a product of the mind. In reality, there are no limitations on a person. Anything can be done if you put your mind to it.

The unconscious mind’s job is to support our beliefs, whatever they might be. When a belief is installed (often by the age of five or six) the unconscious mind doesn’t evaluate it. It accepts that it’s true then goes about looking for evidence to support that belief.

The unconscious mind is exceptionally good at finding evidence, whatever our belief happens to be. If you believe that you’re hopeless at math, you’ll only notice the times when you make mistakes, calculate the wrong change in a shop etc. All the times that you math calculations work perfectly well, will go completely unnoticed.

This is because they don’t support your belief that you’re hopeless in this aspect of life. On the other hand, if you believe you’re good at math, then you can experience exactly the same things, but now you’ll notice how often you get things right. The times you run into difficulties or make mistakes will just be seen as uncharacteristic slip-ups and unimportant.

Beliefs don’t reflect the objective truth, they just feel like they do, so if we’re going to believe something, let’s choose to believe something empowering.

Fortunately, using NLP, we can extract our limiting beliefs and install more positive ones.

That sounds simple enough, but one of the trickiest things is trying to figure out just what our limiting beliefs are.

They’re often so ingrained that we’re just not aware of them at all, because they run unconsciously, below the radar.

Beliefs are installed before the age of 7 and they are gaining more power as the years go by. Many overachievers are running a core limiting belief, they achieve to try and disprove the limiting belief, yet this is a short term fix, it’s not long before they are achieving

again to get their ‘fix.’

People pleasing is another sign, generally at the costs of their own happiness, if you are a people pleaser then you are generally looking for external gratification to prove you are good enough, smart enough or a good person, again this is short lived, the fix is needed again so more people pleasing continues at the costs of your happiness or those people who you should be really pleasing, your loved ones.

Zapping limiting beliefs

A session with a good coach or Neural CoderTM could soon unearth the key negative beliefs you hold, however with a little focus you can usually find the major ones you need to work on yourself.

Take some time to think about and listen to the phrases you often say to or about yourself when things don’t go quite to plan. Is “I’m such an idiot!”, “why do I always end up in a mess like this?”, “I’m useless!” or “Why can’t I do anything right?” one of your most frequent sayings?

Unconscious language patterns are often direct pointers to underlying beliefs that we’re stupid or useless and nothing we do is ever going to be right, or that we don’t deserve to be happy.

A great way of noticing this is to observe yourself for a week. Notice what you say to yourself and watch what you do. Ask yourself, “What do I believe about myself that allows me to say this, or do this?” Notice what comes up for you.

Just being aware of what might be running will allow you to observe it, this way it will lose its power.

You will create a pattern interrupt and disrupt the coding that runs automatically by observing your thoughts, this will help in the short term and give you a break from the limiting belief. You will also be able to see it for what it is and how often it shows up. If you want it to be gone and replace it with a new empowering belief then connect with a qualified coach who can do this for you, it will take no more than three sessions and last a lifetime.

Fortunately with Neural CodingTM we can delete the limiting belief and install a new empowering beliefs, it’s fast and it lasts.

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