What is being good at being a father???

Well the possibilities are limitless, it is how you perceive this migration.

Belated Wishes To All The Wonderful Fathers On The Eve Of Father’s Day, celebrated on 3rd Sunday of June every year.

Do you know that each year brings about a new beginning on how you have traversed & transformed on this journey. I am sharing a few thoughts from my journey of being a son to father to fathering a grownup professionally groomed daughter. My thoughts have seen the light of reminiscence with my father passing away in the month of February this year. He was not keeping good health for quite some time and hence had to be in and out of hospital. The family too went through the trauma because of his health condition physically, mentally, emotionally and financially.

It was during one of my interactions with him around this time that he called out for me, made me sit next to him and told me, “Look at you!! You have turned out into a fine, smart, independent and capable human being who has managed situations and scenarios with the right attitude that has made you come out a winner most times. You have been there & seen it throughout during your ups and downs in your career, personal life and may other things. You now have the requisite experience to take good care of the family and "YES" most important of all you have a wonderful partner who takes good care of you and everyone you are surrounded with. But I want to speak to you about something very important than all these things, this is about my grand daughter. You know she has grown up faster than you and I could have imagined. She now passing through that phase of her life wherein you should not give her a moment of sadness or create any dull moments and any issues that would make her life difficult and complex. It is your responsibility to hold her hand and ensure that she is happy, healthy, satisfied and at peace with her life and her decisions. You must move from becoming a father and practice being good at becoming a good father!! Try being her friend, mentor & guide. Be with her when she needs you the most, stand up for her and yes most importantly accept her for who she is”.

In short, the message was -- stop troubling, pestering, interfering & irritating my granddaughter …. “Pretty Much Loud & Clear”.

It’s been a while since then that I have been thinking and trying to bring about a closure on what and how a father should behave with his daughter who is multi-dimensional and multi-faceted. Who is sensitive yet sensible, beautiful, caring and loved, acts responsibly, is respectful & adjusting and has understanding of the world around her, has a very good IQ, yet is very rational,?is mature enough to handle situations on her own and always get the right assistance in the best way possible to ensure all her work is timely done, is competent enough but chooses to be a team player, has in depth knowledge and is well researched, has good listening skills, is able to put across her thoughts in plain spoken language ensuring that the message is relayed to the viewer for once.

With all of this, it gets difficult to gauge the expectations of me as father of the daughter whose simplicity in persona is so very complete both personally and professionally. I can also confidently state that her mother has done a fantastic job of grooming her, making her ready to face the world outside of her world positively & confidentially.

I guess the role play of this father now is to be constantly standing behind and notice her flutter those wings of desire in the right direction, that is towards her dreams as she looks for those directions for which she is destined in all her future endeavor's. All I have to do now is pray for success, assist her in achieving her fulfilments and make her stronger mentally and emotionally so that she is happy, healthy and capable enough to manage her life on her terms and conditions.

Gods have been kind to me, firstly giving me an assuring partner (wife) who has been constantly by my side throughout and her (daughter) whose presence in me completes the very purpose of continuous learning from her experiences and adventures in her life. Thank you for being a part of my life and giving me opportunities of that of being your father.

To both you wonderful people!!! It’s been a pleasure being with both of you, one a precious diamond who has also been a reassuring wife, friend and mother to another beautiful, reasonable & understanding daughter who is now ready to soar on her own and go a long way in her life personally and professionally.

Cheers to a beautiful life to this superstar combine woman who complete and compliment their existence to live, carry on and survive and grow.

Once again wishing all you wonderful father’s “Happy Father’s Day”.

Ending By Stating – It’s the fathers who rock, but it’s the mothers who rule!!!!

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