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As the holidays approach, many of us find ourselves in a familiar, often overwhelming, situation: saying "yes" to everything. Whether it's attending every holiday party, volunteering for extra work, or taking on additional family responsibilities, this time of year seems to intensify our tendency to overcommit. We want to please everyone, but the cost is often our peace, well-being, and time for self-care.

What if, instead of piling on obligations, we empowered ourselves by embracing the art of saying "no"? Enter the No Manifesto — a tool for reclaiming your time, setting boundaries, and ensuring you stay true to your priorities, even during the busiest season.

What Is a "No" Manifesto?

A No Manifesto is a declaration of your boundaries and values, written with the purpose of protecting your time, energy, and well-being. It’s a personalized statement that reminds you of what truly matters in your life and what you are unwilling to sacrifice. By having a no manifesto in place, you can make empowered decisions about where to invest your energy and when to say no without guilt.

This is especially crucial during the holidays when we’re often pulled in a million directions, feeling obligated to attend every event, buy every gift, and make everyone happy. Without clear boundaries, the festive season can lead to burnout instead of joy.

Why You Need a "No" Manifesto

1. Prevents Overcommitment: Having a clear, written no manifesto reminds you of your priorities and allows you to politely but firmly decline activities or tasks that don’t align with them.

2. Reduces Stress and Anxiety: Establishing boundaries in advance prevents the last-minute scramble to meet unrealistic expectations.

3. Builds Confidence: Saying no is a skill, and the more you practice, the more confident you become in your ability to stand by your decisions.

4. Creates Time for What Matters: The holidays should be about spending time with loved ones, resting, and reflecting on what’s important to you. By saying no to unnecessary commitments, you’re preserving time for meaningful moments.

Action Steps to Creating Your Own "No" Manifesto

1. Identify Your Priorities

Start by reflecting on what truly matters to you, especially during the holiday season. Is it quality time with family? Rest and rejuvenation? Spiritual growth? Define what you want to protect, and let this be your guiding light.

2. Determine What You Want to Say No To

Think about the areas where you often feel overextended. Is it work obligations, social events, or even family gatherings? Be honest with yourself about what drains you, and list the types of commitments that you no longer want to make.

3. Write Your No Manifesto

This is where you put your boundaries into words. Your manifesto can be as short or as detailed as you want, but it should include:

- Your Core Values: A few sentences about what you stand for and what you’re committed to during this season.

- Your Boundaries: Specific examples of what you will say no to, such as “I will say no to attending more than two holiday parties,” or “I will not take on any new projects at work until January.”

- Your Affirmations: Empowering statements to remind yourself that it’s okay to say no. For example, “My time and energy are valuable, and I have the right to choose how to spend them.”

4. Anticipate Challenges

Be realistic about the situations where you may feel pressured to say yes. Prepare responses in advance so you’re not caught off guard when someone asks for a last-minute favor or invite. For instance, you can respond with, “I would love to, but I’m keeping my schedule light this season.”

5. Share Your Boundaries

If necessary, share your no manifesto (or parts of it) with loved ones, coworkers, or anyone who may need to understand your limits. Setting expectations with those around you helps ensure they respect your boundaries.

6. Practice Saying No

Saying no can feel uncomfortable at first, but remember, you’re honoring your needs. Practice using polite but firm language, like “I appreciate the invitation, but I won’t be able to attend,” or “That sounds great, but I’ve committed to keeping my plate clear this month.”

7. Reflect and Revise

After the holiday season, reflect on how your No Manifesto worked. Were there situations where it helped? Are there any adjustments you’d like to make for the future? This process is ongoing, and your boundaries may shift over time.

The holiday season should be a time of joy, reflection, and meaningful connection. Yet, without clear boundaries, it can easily turn into a period of stress and overcommitment. By saying no to what doesn’t serve you, you’re saying yes to yourself and the things that truly matter.

I encourage you to take this opportunity to create your No Manifesto and step into the holiday season, and 2025 with clarity, confidence, and peace.

P.S.- I recently recorded an episode of The SHERO Effect podcast that discusses the power of a No Manifesto. You can listen to the episode here: Creating Your Personal "No Manifesto" )

What's New & Exciting in My World?

Last week I was in Beverly Hills for the 2024 Success Summit and got the chance to catch up with old friends, make a bunch of new ones, and hang out with my dear friend, Lisa Nichols.

I was honored for my work on two films (BRISA and The Iron Cowboy: Conquer 100), a TV show (Break Through with Lisa Nichols), and a recent bestselling book (Rise Up with Lisa Nichols) and had an opportunity to speak from the stage to share some of my successes with others.

All week I was surrounded by amazing people who were also being honored for the incredible things they are doing in their work and their communities. It was a magical time and one I will not forget!

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