Week 22.34 You Got The Power
Scott Osman
CEO @ 100 Coaches | Co-Author WSJ bestseller Becoming Coachable, named to Coaches50 by Thinkers50
Last week during our meeting in Nashville, I was acutely aware that each time I saw someone and they smiled at me, I felt great. Not a big thing, not even a special recognition, just a simple smile. I was still feeling so good when I returned to New York that I was smiling at people who caught my eye on the street. I could tell that a simple smile, a nod of the head, or perhaps "hello" delivered a moment of meaning in most of the people who received the acknowledgment. And I felt good having given them the smallest of gifts. I have watched my daughter Lily Osman do this for years. She sees and acknowledges each person she interacts with. There are innumerable ways to describe this energy. I'd like to start with three: the energy of recognition, appreciation, and connection.
Simply recognizing another person is one of the most basic ways we validate them. Smiling at the person we are interacting with, or perhaps some brief acknowledgment through eye contact conveys the recognition of them as a person - not simply a worker, a driver, or a laborer. The act of recognition is a powerful way of expressing that you see the other person, and in so doing, you validate your own humanity. In experiments this week, I have tried to make it a point to say hello to people I pass. Each time, I notice how they respond and how I feel. Invariably, they smile, I smile back, and we both feel a little more human.
Appreciation is the next level. I have noticed that expressing gratitude when someone does something for me elevates our interaction. My world depends on the systemic cooperation of many other worlds working together. Thanking the taxi driver for taking me to the airport, the waiter for bringing my food, or the sanitation workers who clear the trash from the street is an expression of my appreciation for their contribution. I am grateful for the sanitation worker doing their job so that I live with clean streets. By expressing my appreciation, I can elevate the work of the people who make my life possible and enhance my awareness of my place in a complicated ecosystem.
Connection is the final energy level I am considering. Connection is our understanding that we are each part of a complicated system and interdependent on one another. We can go beyond recognition and appreciation to communicate a sense of connection with other people. With connection, we have embraced the notion of partnership in our ecosystem, a feeling that each person is essential and valued. Using there energy of connection, we can move beyond seeing others as existing or contributing and seeing them in a human partnership.
In life and leadership, we have the opportunity to enhance the lives of the people we love and lead by using the energy of recognition, appreciation, and connection generously. Leaders have amplified energy due to their temporary authority and have the potential to have an even more significant impact. There was a time when leaders felt that by being stingy with their energy, they could reward people with small gestures. But we can now recognize that this behavior yields a diminishing return. Real leaders understand that their energy contributes to the system and makes them even more valuable. Each of us can enhance the lives of everyone we meet at no cost to ourselves. If you want the world to be a better, more livable place, there is no better way to start than by using your energy to power the world.
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2 年Thanks Scott Osman, 3 great actions to live by "recognition, appreciation, and connection!"
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2 年Scott, how awesome that you gave your valued editorial space to #Recognition, #appreciation, and #connection as foundations to great relationships. On our last 100 Coaches Agency second gathering in Nashville, I had the privilege of witnessing Feyzi Fatehi live by those three principles as he would, unprompted and with no agenda, pay respect, give praise and strike conversations with people who worked at the check-in, the Uber drivers, or the guide at the Ryman auditorium centre. When our tour was nearly over and Feyzi asked the guide about his personal connection to the venue, we all saw how his face lit up and we heard his own account of having just played there for the first time the week before. You could see this man’s appreciation that he was noticed beyond his tour guide function. I wanted to acknowledge Feyzi’s inspiring way of being. He made many people’s days during that trip.
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2 年Your compassionate leadership of 100Coaches Scott Osman feels like you've found a cure for Loneliness: You've inspired an amazing and eclectic crew of compassionate people to become brothers and sisters from another mother...a family on purpose...An Intentional Family.
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2 年This is great! Thank you for sharing!