Week 20.41 The Empathy Trap

I don't know about you, but this year has been exhausting me with all of the low-level stress from what are now countless factors. No matter how well I have adapted to the new non-normal of our virtual and over activated life, there are additional traps that I fall in, usually without recognizing what is happening. Fortunately, I am a regular on Monday with Marshall call and this week was another inspiring session in which he discussed the difference between cognitive empathy and emotional empathy. Many of us are challenged by emotional empathy, internalizing the pain of another. Marshall pointed out that when we engage in emotional empathy, we are not doing anything beneficial, we are actually increasing the amount of pain! We may not be able to avoid this empathy, but we should be aware of it so that we can reduce it. On the other hand, cognitive empathy, being aware and understanding of the pain of the other so that we can help them through their pain and without holding the pain ourselves, can be very valuable. We can imagine some of the best doctors excel at this - they have the ability to understand the pain of their patients (and communicate that they understand the pain) without internalizing it. 

Feel good for the sake of feeling good. This has been a recurring theme over the past few weeks. Don't feel someone else's pain so you don't feel the pain. It sounds simple and should be obvious and almost everyone on the call resisted accepting it. We all wanted to feel good to help others. We need to let that coupling go! Help others to help others. Feel good to feel good. Here is a challenge in which you may find an opportunity: don't feel other people's pain, recognize their pain. Rather than internalizing their pain, understand their pain. Help them if they need help. Stay whole. Keep the arrow in the quiver. Don't step in the Empathy Trap. 

100 Leaders Live is off to a great start!

Thanks to all of you who have been supporting 100 Leaders Live by speaking and attending! Today's kickoff was a great success with our great speakers sharing their thoughts on Managing Change. Special thanks to Whitney Johnson, Mark Thompson, David Peterson, Asheesh Advani, Sanyin Siang, and Marshall. Tomorrow promises to be another exceptional day with sessions on Symphony, Diversity, and InclusionandWomen's Leadership. I know that there are many more of you who would like to be involved and we are anxious for you to get involved. After this initial kick-off, we will be hosting 2-4 sessions/month along with offerings for deeper engagement with mastermind groups, workshops, and anything else we can think of to help leaders of the world grow and reach greater potential. More information to follow! For now - please join us tomorrow and Thursday for the final sessions at 9 am, 1 pm, and 5 pm each day. More details at https://100leaders.live/

Wednesday Wisdom 10 am EDT with David Cohen Zoom Meeting

Please join David Wed, Oct 14, 2020, as he presents a concept focusing on corporate values. He will share his perspective on how values develop, are articulated, and introduced to a company. He will then lead a session that addresses the question: who was responsible for the values. And then will lead a case study where the majority of the employees successfully embraced the values however, one executive was not treating her team according to the values. Her direct reports relate to others in different departments, not according to the behaviors that defined the values. Please join and support David in this engaging work on how values are addressed in the corporate setting. 

Using Daily Questions to Increase Individual Effectiveness and Build Employee Engagement!

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Thompson Lindstrom Goldsmith on Branding

November 4th, 2020 09:00 AM Pacific Time featuring an incredible guest: Martin Lindstrom – the World’s #1 Authority on Branding. This webinar will also be recorded and made available.

Martin Lindstrom/is the founder and chairman of Lindstrom Company – the world’s leading brand & culture transformation group. Lindstrom Company is today responsible for brand and culture transformations of numerous Fortune 500 companies, including the LEGO Company, PepsiCo, Red Bull, Estee Lauder Companies, Nestlé International, The Walt Disney Company, and many more. Register in advance for this webinar

Congrats to Claire Diaz Ortiz

Claire Díaz-Ortiz has been many things over the course of her career — an angel investor, an early Twitter employee (who notably got the Pope on Twitter), the founder of a nonprofit, a published author, and an entrepreneur.

Now, the globe-trotting, multi-hyphenate polymath is adding “partner” to her list of titles as she joins the Latin American investment firm [Magma Partners ](https://crunchbase.com/organization/magma-partners) to head up its investment activities across South America’s southern cone and launch a new firm-wide initiative to invest in more women entrepreneurs. Magma Partners launches initiative to invest in female founders in LatAm – TechCrunch

HAPPY BIRTHDAY Gregory Enjalbert 10/16 and Louis Carter 10/17

And, as always, thank you, Marshall, for making all of this possible 

With love and gratitude

Scott