Wearing A Mask? Beware, Someone Must Be Seeing through..
"I control his every movement during the day. He doesn't even know this. I do it so smartly and strategically. An absolute control you know. He can't ever outsmart me," his ego had taken over as he boasted about controlling his best subordinate taking a sip from his beautiful crystal goblet sitting in the club - a subordinate whom he secretly envied for being unique and highly talented.
The man sitting in front of him, a seasoned professional who had seen it all, was an old acquaintance , heard him and asked, "You had told me that he is really good and quite intelligent. I am sure he is not able to make out the deception."
He looked at the man with an expression which was difficult to understand and almost howled, " No, he can't know. He can't read my mind. I know how to hide myself. I wear a perfect mask. He cannot be a threat to me. "
The man heard him and understood the dynamics. With an intention to push him further, the man said, " Oh, so actually deep inside you consider him a threat and therefore, you wear a mask of being nice. Well, that makes it interesting."
He almost screamed catching attention of others sitting around, "Yes, I am the boss and I control him. That is the only truth."
The man grinned and said, , " You think you control him. Isn't it the other way round? By just being whatever he is, actually isn't he making you behave in a certain way? Isn't he then actually controlling your behaviour? Think about it," and then took the last sip, resting the empty glass on the table, left him sitting alone, bewildered.
Indeed sometimes opposite of what we think is actually true. We need to be very cautious of our behaviour. Are we behaving out of fear or love - this is the only question we may have to ask ourselves and must always choose the latter..
RS
US Army veteran, Parkinson's Survivor.
7 年Ramesh, I have seen this dynamic; been a part of it truth be told. I was the subordinate. When I first started with the company, my boss, the CIO, knew my job better than i did. He had written that system himself. Within 6 months, I had carved out a brand new niche where I was the expert. Each new task he assigned me I took ownership of; I made it mine, including his old system. When I took on the role of Oracle DBA, I was in absolute control. No one in the company knew even a fraction of what I knew. Many days all I did was monitor database performance. I appeared to be doing nothing, but no one disturbed me. So long as performance was good, they were happy, It was when the system was not performing well that I would have everyone in my office, looking anxious. That was when those hours of perceived idleness paid off. After a few such crises, my boss just let me do the one thing. He had a need for me back in development, but I had to tell him no. I could not hold to commitment dates. One more point I would to make. When you are the boss, it is not important that you know everything about everyones job. Let your people be the expert, let them tell you what to do, let them do the job you hired them for. The only knowledge you need is to determine if they are competent or need to be replaced.
Art Teacher????Senior Professional Level Teachers/K 3 Teachers at Suphannapoom School Suphan Buri
7 年??Great love must come from exchanges with great feelings as well. ?? No forcing your love with your power or so crazy behavior.with them.
Art Teacher????Senior Professional Level Teachers/K 3 Teachers at Suphannapoom School Suphan Buri
7 年??Love: not control. But love is concern. ??Love: not rage. But love isencouragement. ??Love: Not a star that's dazzling. ??But love is the light of the sun & the warmth of the moonlight. ??