We live in a ‘fix it’ kind of world

We are good at seeing what is wrong. In general, with things like politics, banks, or the way we forget to connect with each other when there is wifi. Things are broken. They need fixing.

Or with others. You know, how they are ignorant (how else could they support x), or too impatient (when there is a line, there is a line), or lousy parents (for giving in when their little girl is throwing a tantrum in the toy store). Things are broken, they could do with fixing.

Or with ourselves. Still getting caught up in feeling insecure, and hearing those internal voices criticizing what we do. ‘Forgetting’ our self-care. Things are broken, and could do with fixing.

This idea that things need fixing, so that it will be ‘done’ afterwards. ‘Ready’. When you can mentally cross it off the to-do list:

That time when I will no longer suffer from procrastination. That moment when our banks are in line. When her children will behave (ever after).

We often don’t even realise that’s where we are operating from:

This cultural illusion that things need fixing.

True for mechanical things - our dishwasher will need to be sawed out and replaced - major pain in the but.

Not so true for people.

People do not need fixing, they need healing, and transformation.

They are not broken.

They might feel contracted, or stuck. But they are not broken. All they need is allowing their energy to flow again.

This might seem like a semantical discussion - just words-, but it really isn’t.

If you are not broken, and I don’t have to fix you, you are in the very best place to experience that flow of life force energy again. There is nothing you NEED coming from outside of you, although you can be supported deeply. It is here in you, for you, right now.

And if my client isn’t broken, and I don’t have to fix them, I don’t have to hold them in a dependent relationship with me (no matter how subtle). I don’t have to save them. I can honour their strength, and hold space for them, so they can shine. I can support them in ways that does not get in the way of their strength, their uniqueness. Fully confident that they will shine. Knowing that soul-based coaching has given me the tools to be 100% THERE for them.

Let’s stop assuming people need fixing. That we know better.

And instead, hold space for them.

It will save us all so much energy and it is one of the most empowering things you can do. The children in your life will thank you too.

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