We all have blind spots
Psst. Excuse me. I’ve got a secret for you.
I feel like I should be talking really quietly right now, but first, I need to warn you. This secret is going to seem incredibly obvious. You may even wonder why I’m going to tell you about it at all.
The secret comes in two parts:
1 - We all have blind spots.
2 - By definition, we can’t see them.
That’s it… that’s the secret.
See what I mean about being obvious?
They’re called blind spots for a reason… it’s because you can’t?see?them. But here’s the real tragedy: we’re often totally uncoachable when it comes to dealing with them. Not only can we not see them, but when somebody points them out, we don’t believe they exist!
The solution is to be coachable. We need to find, and then listen to, other people who can see our blind spots.
A retired investment banker did just that himself. This guy knew his way around money and definitely knew how to invest. But he was looking for help with his money. He understood that when it came to his own money, he had a blind spot. And he recognized the value in having someone else help him see the mistakes he might make.
This is one of those cases where the solution is simple but not easy.
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You don’t hire a coach—whether to help you with money, business, creativity, or sports—because you’re stupid.
You hire a coach because?they’re not you.
Other people can see things you clearly cannot see.
Your job is twofold:
1 - Don’t run away from the feedback of people who can see your blind spots.
2 - Listen to feedback when you get it. Treat it like gold when it shows up, don’t be defensive.
If you can do that, you may learn to see what you were previously blind to. And that can be incredibly helpful in investing, relationships, or life in general.
If you'd like to have some help finding your blind spots around money, WITHOUT someone jumping your?sh*t about, ping me at [email protected] or schedule a call using my online calendar .
I’m not in the finance business. I’m in the life business.
If you’re inspired, let’s talk. No sales pitches. Like, ever.
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1 年Brilliant!
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1 年I occasionally study the thinking errors we are all prone to and how to mitigate them. One of the most common answers is to get an outside perspective! I have noticed a strange aversion to feedback at times. The odd thing is that it's both good feedback and constructive criticism that I have a hard time with. It's an ongoing thing I'm working on. :)
Carol "You hire a coach because they're not you." Great advice. I know. I'm a coach, and I have coaches who are DEFINITELY not me. Wonderful post!
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1 年Tue, truer, and truest, Carol Parrish, RICP?: "You don’t hire a coach—whether to help you with money, business, creativity, or sports—because you’re stupid. You hire a coach because?they’re not you. Other people can see things you clearly cannot see." This is an exceptional reminder of the value of finding a trusted advisor!
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1 年Great post Carol! Without feedback, we keep our blind spots - and thus miss opportunities. Having the mindset that feedback is a gift is a great way to take feedback in when it's offered - and - a great way to approach seeking out feedback even when it's not!