Ways to Navigate Uncomfortable Topics This Holiday Season
Dr. Ayo Olufade, Ph.D.
STEAM Educator | Podcast Host | Author | Entrepreneur | Advocate for Diversity in STEAM
Happy Holidays in advance!
As we all know, the holiday season is the season for joy and celebration. However, it can also be stressful, especially during office and family gatherings. Here are some carefully crafted strategies for different scenarios. These strategies are designed to help you maintain peace and harmony, de-escalate tensions, and avoid confrontations. They require empathy, tact, and conflict-resolution skills, and their goal is to keep the focus on the joy and celebration of the season.
General De-Escalation Strategies:
Specific Responses for Common Scenarios:
When Someone Brings Up a Sensitive Topic
Response:
"This topic might be best discussed at another time when everyone's feeling more relaxed. Let's focus on enjoying the holiday together right now."
When Tempers Start to Flare
Response:
"Hey, this is a meaningful conversation, but let's keep the holiday spirit in mind. We can revisit this later in a calmer setting.
When Someone Brings Up a Sensitive Topic
Response:
"This topic might be best discussed at another time when everyone's feeling more relaxed. Let's focus on enjoying the holiday together right now."
When Tempers Start to Flare
Response:
"Hey, this is a meaningful conversation, but let's keep the holiday spirit in mind. We can revisit this later in a calmer setting.
When Someone Feels Left Out or Overlooked
Response:
"I'm so glad you're here. Let's find a way to make this moment more enjoyable for everyone. What's something you'd like to share or do?"
When Old Grievances Resurface
Response:
"The holidays are a time to focus on what brings us together. Let's put the past aside for now and focus on creating good memories today."
When Someone Criticizes Another
Response:
"I know everyone here has good intentions. Let's keep things positive so we can enjoy each other's company."
When Someone Tries to Drag You Into the Conflict
Response:
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"I care about both of you and want everyone to have a good time. I'm not the best person to weigh in here. Let's all take a breather and enjoy the celebration."
When You Notice Tension Early On
Response:
There's some tension here. Let's take a moment to reset and focus on why we're all gathered—celebrating the season and each other."
When Someone Feels Left Out or Overlooked
Response:
"I'm so glad you're here. Let's find a way to make this moment more enjoyable for everyone. What's something you'd like to share or do?"
When Old Grievances Resurface
Response:
"The holidays are a time to focus on what brings us together. Let's put the past aside for now and focus on creating good memories today."
When Someone Criticizes Another
Response:
"I know everyone here has good intentions. Let's keep things positive so we can enjoy each other's company."
When Someone Tries to Drag You Into the Conflict
Response:
"I care about both of you and want everyone to have a good time. I'm not the best person to weigh in here. Let's all take a breather and enjoy the celebration."
When You Notice Tension Early On
Response:
There's some tension here. Let's take a moment to reset and focus on why we're all gathered—celebrating the season and each other."
Techniques to Avoid Confrontations Altogether:
Being proactive, addressing tensions, and focusing on the positives can help avoid unnecessary headaches and foster an environment that celebrates connection and joy during the holidays.
As the year comes closer to the end, Happy Holidays from STEAMSparks - Think STEAM Careers Podcast.
Dr. Ayo Olufade, Ph.D.
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