Water

As I write this article I feel moved to react to issues of importance. I want to talk about things that seperate our nation and divide cultures. Yet, I continue to be aware that these issues are often area in which a winner and a loser is declared. One of my favorite co-workers of all time suggested that I be "water." Water is a medium in which is vitally important to life... literally and figuratively. If we want to be PEOPLE...ALL IN, we must find the times in which we are willing to be water.

Water is vital for all known forms of life even though it provides neither food or energy.

Water covers about 71% of the Earth's surface.

Water plays an important role in the world economy.

Water is used to fight fires. If you are willing to be water in your actions, you will become a vital instrument to your team. You will have the ability to successfully fight fires and lead groups.

In my favorite binge watching show right now, Designated Survivor, Keifer Sutherland tries to remain neutral on political issues as he leads the United States as an independent partied President. Strong values and continued morale reflection allow him to remain ground and guide others through many conflicts.

As you see conflict and wish to support your people through tough times, I suggest these 7 strategies to suppoer your people.

Set Up a Discussion Time... If you see an issue looming, schedule a time to discuss that works best for both parties. If possible, allow the other to know the topic of conversation in advance so that each one of you are allowed to prepare for the topic. A well thought out conversation lends to a better encounter.

Invite a Third Party/Person... If a intervention expert or other third party must be involved, seek the advice of a consultant. Before I approach one of my children about an issue, I will discuss with my wife about the topic. Her advice is priceless as it allows for an additional perspective to be reviewed. Too often, I change my approach prior to the discussion with my child. If this matter is work related, I suggest that you find a colleague that you feel confortable in confiding your dilemma. Getting additional advice and support will often provide valuable support.

What's the Main Issue... Often, the issue at hand is due to an underlying main issue. Before escalating your thoughts, think through your situation to better understand the root cause of your problem. Many times, the confrontation could be scaled down due to a better overall review.

Discover Common Goals...Prior to engaging in your conflict, think about your ultimate goal. Then, think about the goal of the opposing party. Are there any common goals? Going into the conversation with an understanding of each other's goals, will allow for a more fluid discussion.

Investigate How to Meet Goals... Understand that many goals require stepping stone pathways. Rarely can an immediate decision be made. When you understand that conflict resoution requires a steady stream of milestones, then you will be willing to work with the other party to achieve the desired outcome.

Agree on the Way Forward... At the conclusion of the conversation, it is vital to agree on a way forward. If you do not agree, then the conflict will arise once again. If you are giving up certain things, understand that when you agree, you have made a commitment. Do not go back on something you agreed upon. Working together means that both parties may have to give up certain things for a common win.

Determine a Resolution and Define Roles... When the conversation closes, know what your role is going forward. If you are not clear, ask the question prior to exiting. If you are angry then you will leave without clarity going forward. It is important to end a discussion with a clear plan to execute.

As we encounter issues in the workplace or at home, please know that winning is not always the answer. We win as a society when we allow both parties to win and both parties can lose. Put your indifferences aside and work together to find harmony. Our world needs harmony. You need harmony. Be Water. If we are going to be PEOPLE...ALL In, be water.