WATCH YOUR BACK! By: Ebony Hudson, LISW-CP, LCSW
Ebony Hudson, LISW-CP, LCSW
Clinical Social Worker, Biblically focused mental health therapist, Independent Contractor, Adjunct Professor, Author of the book From Healing to Wholeness: A Christian Perspective on Emotional and Mental Wellness.
Must Jesus bear the cross alone,
And all the world go free?
No, there’s a cross for everyone,
And there’s a cross for me.
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In looking at the words of this hymn I am reminded of the scripture in John 16:33, ‘’These things I have spoken unto you, that in me ye might have peace. In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” So, we all have the crosses of life that we carry on our back, some seasons the load is lighter and at other times the load is very heavy. But sometimes our load seems extra extra heavy and when we figuratively turn around to see the crosses we are carrying, we realize other people have put their cross on our backs. Many times, they don’t come out and just say ‘’hey, carry this cross for me.’’ No, it’s the ‘’can you do me another favor; can I take up more of your time than you really have to give; can I just complain about the problems but show no interest in your suggested solutions; can I only reach out to you when there’s a problem; can I invite you to my pity parties but leave you out of my celebrations,” and the list goes on and on. That person who when you see their name on the caller ID you pump yourself up for the conversation because you know you are about to go on a wild ride of emotions. You don’t answer their calls, texts, or emails when you’re in a great mood because you know they will bring you down.
Proverbs 3:27 (NIV) says ‘’do not withhold good from those to whom it is due, when it is in your power to act.’’ Sometimes God positions us to HELP others carry their cross for a season. When we have poor boundaries, or no boundaries at all, we not only carry our cross, but we go around taking other peoples’ crosses from them; and we wonder why we feel burdened, and they look carefree. Growing up in church you always hear the saying ‘’God won’t put more on you than you can handle.’’ Although life can sometimes make you doubt that saying, one thing is sure, people will put more on you than you can handle if you don’t have good boundaries. WATCH YOUR BACK!