Wasted Time, Missed Opportunities: How to Overcome Mid-Life Regret

Regret, a hard pill to swallow.

You might not have many in your 20s or 30s.

But when you hit your 40s or 50s, and you start looking around at what others have achieved, that’s when the self-evaluation begins.

Knowing that you lacked self-confidence, but didn't take any action.

Knowing that you allowed so many fears to get in the way and did nothing.

Knowing that you were not happy, but chose not to do anything about it.

Knowing you could have pursued and built a healthy relationship, but didn’t.

Knowing you had the potential to do better, but remained stuck in an unfulfilling career.

Knowing you could have paid to partner with a coach to guide you when you felt stuck, but didn’t.

For many, it’s tough. What could have been VS why you didn't do it?

And it's no wonder so many individuals go through what we call a mid-life crisis.

They were stuck on autopilot for years and suddenly you are 35+ and here you are:

Lacking in passion, direction and motivation, and feeling unhappy and unfulfilled.

Comparing yourself to your friends and others around you.

Bringing up feelings of disappointment, guilt, and sadness over missed opportunities or wrong decisions.

That’s when they suddenly decide to splurge to make up for lost time and years:

Sports cars, month-long retreats, complete makeovers, botox, plastic surgery, dermal fillers, join a gym, jump into the dating scene like never before - the list goes on.

But, sadly, none of this will fill that void.

That emptiness, that feeling of unhappiness, won’t disappear until you face it and address it.

Yes, sadly regret is heavy on the heart and mind.

And if you dig deep, you'll figure out regret often stems from a scarcity mindset.

A mindset that stops you from taking action and taking the right steps when needed, to better your life and your health.

You procrastinate and you waste precious months and years.

Because you value money, more than time.

Read that again.

The 3 big life lessons I learnt from my own regrets in life are:

1. Don’t let time, your most precious asset, slip away aimlessly.
2. Don’t cling onto money.
3. Don’t underestimate the importance of investing in your health and happiness.

A scarcity mindset will keep you stuck in a life of regrets.

And here is the good news:

You can use the regrets you have in your life right now to fuel your determination to turn your life around.

You don’t need to be on your deathbed to start reflecting on your regrets.

While facing regrets can be tough, they can also serve as a powerful catalyst for personal growth and changes in your life.

The sooner you confront them and learn from them, the better equipped you will be to make positive changes and better decisions moving forward.

If you want to be happy, healthy, fulfilled, successful, you still have plenty of time to do it.

Here 7 steps to help you overcome regret:

1. Acknowledge Your Regrets: Start by being honest with yourself.
2. Shift Your Mindset: Challenge your scarcity mindset.
3. Take Small, Consistent Steps: Identify areas where you can make small improvements.
4. Seek Support: Whether it’s a coach, therapist, or mentor, having someone to guide you can make all the difference.
5. Prioritise Your Wellbeing: Regular exercise, healthy eating, and mindfulness practices.
6. Set Clear Goals: Define what success and fulfillment mean to you.
7. Forgive Yourself: Forgive yourself for past mistakes and missed opportunities. Focus on what you can control now, rather than dwelling on what you can’t change.

Don’t let regret hold you back.

My message to you is:

You can still write a new chapter, one filled with purpose, joy, love, health, and meaningful relationships.

Get all the help, support, and guidance you need to make it happen..

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I can help you in more ways you can imagine, through life coaching.

If you are a high achiever, a leader in your 30s - 40s, who is struggling but are now ready to prioritise your wellbeing, happiness in order to thrive in your overall life:

Book a call with me, I am excited and looking forward to taking on new 1:1 coaching clients this month.

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Invest your time, energy and money in yourself - you deserve it.

Time is the currency of the wealthy, while money is the focus of the less fortunate.

-T. Harv Eker.

Stephen R. Covey in his book, "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People", introduced the idea of scarcity mindset to illustrate different approaches people can have towards life, opportunities, and relationships.

Scarcity Mindset is characterised by the belief that resources are limited, leading to a competitive, defensive, and protective approach to life. People with this mindset often feel that there is not enough success, happiness, or resources to go around, which can result in feelings of jealousy, anxiety, and fear of loss.