The Warrior’s Stance

“What did fear take from you?” This question has haunted me?—?the conversations I didn’t have because I was scared, the places I didn’t go, the opportunities I passed up, the things I wanted but didn’t ask for?—?all because I was scared.

The funny thing is that fear is inevitable. If you like someone, you’re scared of being hurt, scared if they even like you back, scared if you’ll be compatible. If you want this new big job that pays really well, you’re scared whether you’ll get it, and if you do, will you be good at it? Will your co-workers like you??

Fear, fear, fear. If it is always there, why do we let it stop us? Why do we torture our minds with thoughts of what could go wrong?

I was boxing today, I learned that you are most vulnerable when you attempt to hit someone because you have to let down your guard in order to attack. You’re not guaranteed whether or not the punch will have its intended effect?—?your opponent could block it, use your momentum against you and hit you back, or just evade it.

Life works the same way. When you desire something, you are opening yourself up to rejection, disappointment, and pain. This is why we let fear take over, because it acts as a shield for the negative feelings?—?but we don’t realize it shields us from the positive ones too.?

When you dream, when you desire, when you dare to get up and go after what you really want, that is living. That is life. There is never going to be a time where love doesn’t go hand in hand with hate. When we open ourselves up to one emotion, we are opening ourselves up to its polar opposite. Life might be unfair, but I do believe it has balance. The only way to find your balance is to find your center, your tune.

Just like in boxing, you are first taught how to take a stance, how to position yourself so that when the hits keep coming or when you throw them, you don’t fall down.?

Now, warrior, it is time to take a stance in your life. What are your priorities? What do you desire? What do you love? Find the answer within or with out because people do act as mirrors to your heart truest desires sometimes. Take a stance, and as my instructor always says, “guard up.” Then dance with life, blow for blow.