Wanted: Space

Mental space, physical space, relationship space, time space, idea space, emotional space, auditory space. The list goes on.

Space, both literal and figurative, is a commodity that is more precious than ever. We live in crowded cities, crowded homes, crowded rooms, and work on crowded desks (me!) with crowded desktops (definitely me). Our schedules are packed with back-to-back meetings, and our To-Do lists are endless. These space-deprived lives prevent us from two vital processes: thinking and breathing.

Living Space

Realizing my life needed more space started with my previous living arrangement—4 years of cohabitating with two adults (my sons) and a dog in a 2-room apartment. We survived the pandemic, but the lack of privacy led to tension. Research shows that a lack of physical space negatively impacts mental health.

A 2019 study highlighted that participants living in small apartments reported mood swings and feelings of suffocation due to the lack of “breathing room” (Space Coast Daily, 2024).

Since moving to a more spacious home, I have felt my entire self breathing freely again. I am renewed.

Thinking Space

Creating mental space through physical activity has been transformative. Running or walking outdoors opens up my brain's capacity for new ideas. The repetitive motion creates space for creativity and problem-solving.

“Some of the best ideas I get seem to happen when I’m doing mindless manual labor or exercise. It leaves me free for remarkable ideas to occur.” (The Link Between Exercise and Creative Thinking, reviewstudio 2022)

Get Sh*t Done Space

When people ask me if I have plans for the weekend, I love being able to say, "Not really." I no longer have the desire or capacity to overbook myself. My To-Do lists are shorter, focusing on must-dos and leaving room for relaxation. The key is creating space for yourself. Is there a relationship giving you stress? Take a breather. Need focus-time? Change your environment. Family driving you crazy? Go for a walk outdoors. Running into walls with idea-generating? De-clutter your physical space.

Reaction Space

In moments of tension, waiting to react gives emotions time to cool. This space allows for thoughtful responses instead of impulsive reactions. Imagine your "hot" emotions as runners around a track—they need to do a few laps before they are tired enough to sit down. Your breathing slows, your heart rate returns to normal, and you can think straight again. By giving your reactions room to process, you remove the power they have on you.

Final Thoughts

Space is essential for a balanced, healthy life. By intentionally creating space, we open up possibilities for greater peace, creativity, and connection. A beautiful and calming flywheel effect starts to happen as space begets space. Before you know it, you'll be a renewed you.

What spaces will you create today?