Want more time? Here's how to create it...

Have you ever wanted more time to focus on yourself (health, passions, relationships), but so many people, projects, and causes seem to rely on you that your schedule is constantly at the mercy of everyone else?

If so, you're not alone.

As a heart-centered (and formerly reluctant leader), I spent a lot of years of my life trying to help EVERYONE and fill every gap or need I saw in the world.

The problem with creating time for ourselves is that no one else is going to do it for us. We have to believe that we deserve to care for ourselves well before others are going to buy in.

People will not respect our time, value, effort, energy, boundaries, or priorities until we stand strong it what we bring to the table FIRST.

Makes sense, right?

Have you ever tried to sell someone on an idea or product that you didn't actually believe in yourself? How would that even work?

"I tried a new restaurant the other day. You should check it out."

"Oh really? Did you love it? Was the food great?"

"Well...no. And not exactly."

"Oh! Well then maybe it was the atmosphere? Or the service?"

"No..."

"Well, then, why would I go?"

The odds aren't great people are going to buy in, right?

In day to day world, when there's a loud, shaming inner critic in our head, it plays out the same way. We may use the right words initially, but as soon as we experience ANY questions or pushback, we fold right into ourselves instead of fortifying our position. The voices in our heads remind us that it's not that we don't have time, it's that we were going to use that time for something else.

And if we don't feel deserving of prioritizing our own needs, people are more than happy to take their time and apply it to satisfying their own. It's not that they're bad people - it's just human nature.

When we're not clear on who we are and what we want, we don't have a prayer of communicating it to anyone else - much less establishing guilt-free boundaries to protect it.

Luckily, I've discovered the solution to this problem:

To create more time & space for yourself WITHOUT feeling guilty or shameful, you need to:

• Feel deserving of taking up your own time
• Feel safe to rely on support (and knowing where to find it)
• Reprogram the voice in your head to stop shaming/pressuring you

Let's think through this. We may know intellectually we need to get better at setting boundaries or taking more time for our health and relationships, but when the rubber meets the road, we'll say yes (and shame ourselves later).

Why? Because we don't want to let people down. We're helpers and doers with giant hearts..and, ultimately, we don't want people to feel the aloneness that we felt at some point in our lives.

It's not that you don't KNOW what you need to do to create time (this has nothing to do with intellect), it's that you just...can't do it - because you don't feel worthy of prioritizing your own needs (or desires!) over those of others.

You're also likely resisting support without even realizing it.

But...how could this be possible? How - if our deepest desire is to experience the support we're always providing for others - is it possible that we can't let ourselves receive it?

If you think through it, you've probably always been the supporter and rarely (if ever) the supported. It's not because support isn't available to you, it's because, deep down, there's fear surrounding relying on anyone other than yourself.

It's not until we address this fear and feel safe to rely on others that we'll actually be open to giving ourselves permission to have it.

Additionally, if you've gotten this far, the voice in your head is a liar. It's regularly robbing you of rest, joy, and pleasure, because it's constantly shaming you into action.

It's actually NOT the world around you that's the problem, it's the feelings of "not enough-ness".

"I can't rest, because too many people need me." (Pressure to show up, even when we don't feel okay)

"I don't have time to eat, because my schedule is packed" (Fear of letting people down or being judged when we say "That time doesn't work for me."

"Everything has to look picture perfect, because that's what people expect" (Fear of others finding out we're NOT perfect all the time)

These are our own unreasonable expectations/perceptions we have about and for ourselves.

The great news is - since we're the ones in our own way - we can take action to correct the problem (and fast!) without permission or approval from anyone else.

Now that's obviously easier said than done, right?

You can't normally just create boundaries and magically feel deserving, safe, and confident without tons of work, effort, and struggle.

That's why I've created a very specific set of tools to make this whole process a lot faster and more effortless.

If you'd like, let's hop on a quick call to see if The Self-Mastery Accelerator is right for you.

Just click this link to book a time to chat that works for you.

During that call, we'll look at how your business, life, and health could benefit from implementing these strategies and what your best next steps would be if you decided to pursue this level of freedom in your life.

Spots are limited and there's zero obligation to work with me, but if we do end up being a fit, I'll invite you to be a private client of mine and I can show you how to make these life-changing shifts as quickly and painlessly as possible (I already handled the years of trial, error, frustration, and heartbreak for you)

Look forward to speaking with you!

Beth