Want More Fun?

Do you want to have more fun? Release yourself from the idea of failure. Failure to impress others and the inability to meet their expectations. Failure to be accepted and embraced by them. Failure to uphold the fa?ade you created. Release the idea of failure so you can reveal to the world who you truly are. Freedom from failure is where you find fun and is the space where work feels like play.

According to Dr. Stuart Brown, play is a very primal activity. It is preconscious, and preverbal-it arises out of ancient biological structures that existed before our consciousness or our ability to speak. Play seems to be so crucial to our development and survival that the impulse to play has become a biological drive. Like our desires for food, sleep, or sex, the impulse to play is internally generated. Humans are designed to be lifelong players and built to benefit from play at any age.

So why do we stop having fun around the same time society considers us adults. The younger you are, the lower the expectations. About the time that you are an adult, you don’t have time for fun because you are too busy managing what the world thinks of you for not obtaining enough. We are failing miserably under other’s expectations, but we make it look like it’s easy. Having fun would blow my cover.

If I fail, I would be made fun of by other people who also either not trying at all because they are afraid to try or they are failing as well. I can’t make light-hearted of a situation where I might fail, and I want to be taken seriously as a professional. I must win at all costs. I can’t risk having fun, making fun, or being made fun of. I can’t have fun. 

Fun is not at the risk of failure. Once you fail, you remove the expectation, and you are free just to have fun. The ultimate goal becomes, can I do better than I did before. The hardest part is overcoming the thoughts of failure. In our minds, we always make it worse than it is. Most of the time, you are either Catastrophizing or fortune-telling. The problem with this is that humans are horrible at both and are hardwired for reacting to fear. 

If you decide that life is a journey and just decide to have fun and not worry about the results, when you are effort driven, you have a more happy and satisfying life. You can’t control the results, but you can control your efforts. If you switch your perspective to your results being fun, you will feel proud of yourself for the efforts you put in, and the best part is that you had fun while doing it. 

Free yourself from the judgment of others and choose to create and have more fun in your life. Failure isn’t something that kills you but instead makes you stronger. If you decide failure is going to be fun regardless of how painful the lesson, you can face anything. Remember, the real you can’t be broken. 

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