Want Better Boundaries? Start Here

Shhhtory time.

A few years ago, I worked with a client who, on paper, had it all: a great job, a loving husband, dreamy trips abroad, and an amazing group of friends.

And yet... AND YET...

She was exhausted. Stuck. Teetering on the edge of burnout. Unsure of what to do next.

Her intention? To create an action plan for her next steps.

Now, there are a few ways to approach this:

• You could say, "Let’s figure out where you want to go and map out an A, B, C plan to get there" (classic coaching vibes).
• Or, you could focus on her energy, asking, "What drains you? What fuels you?" (mindset work, anyone?).

But here’s the thing: neither of those approaches gets to the root of the problem.

What I do is different. I dig deeper. I ask: Why is she feeling exhausted, stuck, and on the verge of burnout in the first place?

And when we did the work, here’s what we uncovered:

This woman was a good girl. A nice girl. She prided herself on being kind and agreeable—admirable traits, sure. But they came at a cost.

She had spent her life saying “yes” to everyone and everything, without pausing to ask herself: Do I actually want this?

The result? Exhaustion. Stagnation. Burnout.

So, what’s the solution?

You might think: "Teach her boundaries!" And yes, boundaries are important. But here’s the catch: if I had simply handed her a list of “how to set boundaries,” it wouldn’t have been her solution. It would’ve been mine.

Instead, we did something far more powerful.

We reconnected her to her most innate, most primal boundary monitor: HER ANGER.

Yes, anger.

Anger is the most powerful protector you have.

• Anger will pull you out of situations that harm you.
• Anger will stop others from crossing your boundaries.
• Anger will remind you: I am powerful, worthy, lovable, and deserving of respect.

But here’s the problem: most of us have been conditioned to fear or suppress our anger. We’ve been told it’s “bad,” that it makes us unkind, unlovable, or even dangerous.

(Convenient, right? A society that trains us to suppress our anger is a society that’s easier to control.)

It’s time to change that.

It’s time to reclaim your anger.

No, I’m not saying you should go punch your boss (please don’t).

I’m saying it’s time to make your anger your ally.

And that’s exactly what we’ll be doing in ALL THE RAGE.

This isn’t your typical “boundaries training.” TBH, I don't even know what that is... the way I see the world is once I connect you to your ESSENCE, boundaries come naturally.

Once you learn to harness your anger, you won’t need anyone to tell you, “You should’ve set better boundaries there.”

Your body will tell you—in real time.

So, if you’re ready to reclaim your power, JOIN HERE

With love, liberation, and a little righteous rage,

Lucy x x

Oh.. and my client? She started leaving work on time, taking her lunch breaks, stopped going to all the hen dos she hated and a few months later.... quit her job, retrained and is now living the most inspiring life of all time. Just sayin'