Walking Away From Things Not Meant For Me
Dear life amplifiers,
Remember the last time you felt it?
That racing pulse, tightening chest, sleepless nights, and uncertainty about what comes next. The guilt that follows, mixed with fear and insecurity.
This is what it feels like when you realize it's time to walk away from someone or something. Even when you still care deeply.
It's not easy. It's difficult, plain and simple.
I remember my first time. Fresh out of university at my first job with exciting work, stimulating tasks, a great city, and thoughts of marriage on the horizon. Things should have been good, except for the toxic, political workplace. Making the decision to leave after just a couple of years was incredibly hard.
I feared I would let my colleagues down, that I would give up, that I wouldn’t try hard enough, that I wouldn’t be good enough. For months, my head fought against what my heart already knew was right.
True! Walking away from something you care about is one of life's greatest challenges.
It's that conflict between loyalty and doing what feels necessary, something we all eventually face.
You might not be surprised to hear that one of the key questions I often ask in my coaching sessions is, “What’s holding you back right now?"
?? That friendship where you're always giving and never receiving?
?? The comfortable job that's slowly draining your passion?
?? Those habits that keep you stuck in the same loop year after year?
?? Or…?
Take a moment to envision the version of yourself that makes you feel alive. Then look at your life with clear eyes and identify what needs to go so you can move toward that vision.
Each time you release what no longer serves you, you unlock a deeper connection to who you're meant to be.
So, if today you're stepping away from something you once couldn't imagine living without, trust the journey. On the other side of this difficult choice stands your future self: stronger, wiser, and grateful you had the courage to let go.
And help others doing the same by mentoring them, supporting them, and creating psychologically safe spaces. More here: https://www.dhirubhai.net/events/howtocreatepsychologicalsafetya7304817691121311746/theater/
Wishing you a great week!
Best,
Andreas von der Heydt
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I′m an executive coach, consultant, and advisor to senior leaders and entrepreneurs worldwide. A former executive board member and leader at Amazon, Chewy, L’Oréal, and Tchibo.
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6 å°æ—¶å‰Sometimes the hardest choices lead to the best growth. Andreas
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7 å°æ—¶å‰Always keep smiling and walking at the right way is a present for the present and for the future! Have a nice St. Patrick′s Day! Thank you, Andreas von der Heydt! ??
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7 å°æ—¶å‰Stark formuliert! Loslassen geh?rt zu den schwierigsten, aber auch wirkungsvollsten Entscheidungen im Leben – beruflich wie privat. Wer den Mut findet, alte Muster oder überholte Sicherheiten hinter sich zu lassen, schafft Raum für echtes Wachstum. Danke für diesen wertvollen Reminder! ??
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10 å°æ—¶å‰This is a very perceptive comment on that internal conflict we at times all face. On the one hand loyalty and the wanting to win and proving yourself to be worthy. It may even be a vision and the not wanting to lose or give up on that vision. On the other hand, we have that which needs to be done in order to progress. It is a very difficult conflict to reconcile because of the competing values of integrity on the one hand and being fair to yourself on the other. And we all know that change is the hardest thing in any direction. If we stay in the waiting space of uncertainty, we lose time to do the right thing. Later when we get to do the right thing, we have the new conflict which is that because the action was easier than we thought or why did we wait so long?
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11 å°æ—¶å‰This is extremely profound. I want to encourage everyone that if you feel this way, it is always better on the other side