Why do we DO, what we DO?

EVERY ONE OF YOUR DECISIONS IS DRIVEN BY THESE SIX NEEDS

Why do people overeat, or overspend?

Why do people resort to conflict, or violence?

Why do people take drugs, or even take their own life?

Why do people crave attention, or yearn for love?

Why do people do what they do? More specifically –?why do?you?do what you do??

There is always a reason behind your?actions. You?may not know what that reason is – at least not consciously. In fact, quite often people act and behave in ways that seem irrational and inexplicable, even to themselves. And there are a million?answers to the question, “Why do I do the things I do?”?

But all these?reasons?revolve around just six primary driving forces, called the?Six Human Needs.

The?Six?Human Needs are fundamental to every single person and shape?how we live our lives.?

No matter what country you are from, what your socioeconomic status is, no matter your race, your religion, your colour, your creed; no matter what your goals, desires, values, morals or dreams are – we all share these same needs.

If?you want to understand?why are you the way that you are?on a deeper, more meaningful level, then you must begin with understanding these needs. Because once you do, you will understand why you act and react in certain ways. And that awareness is a key step to making a pivotal shift in your life so that you can overcome obstacles and embrace opportunities to ultimately find absolute fulfilment.?

Stop?comparing yourself to others?and achieve your own unique success.

CERTAINTY

Why do you do what you do??The first?and most common answer?is?the need for?certainty.

Certainty is the need to avoid pain and ideally find some comfort. That is why this is the most basic need we all have – a survival mechanism. We have to have certainty to even function in our daily lives.?

VARIETY

The answer to “Why do people do what they do?” isn’t straightforward. The Six Human Needs can even appear to conflict with each other: We don’t just crave certainty – we also crave uncertainty.

The problem with certainty is that once we have it in every respect, we get bored. Our passion is found in the realm of uncertainty, or variety. Variety creates excitement for us. That’s what adventure is. It makes us?feel alive. And we need surprises in our lives, because that’s what helps us grow.?

SIGNIFICANCE

The third need is?significance. We all have the need to feel that our lives are significant – that our lives are important, unique and in some way special.

When you’re thinking about?why do you do what you do, consider?how you meet your need for significance.?Do you work harder than anyone else? Do you know more about sports than anyone else? Do you dress uniquely, or have more earrings or tattoos than anyone else? Do you buy certain brands? Do you own a luxury car? Do you have more education and more diplomas than anyone else?

There are a million ways to be significant. What is yours?

LOVE AND CONNECTION

Why do people do what they do? Throughout history, the answer has been love.

The problem with the need for significance is that it means you have to be different than everyone else. And just in the way that the need for certainty reveals the need for variety, the need for significance reveals the need for love and connection.

GROWTH?AND?CONTRIBUTION

The first four needs are critical. They are essential. You will always find a way to meet each of these needs, but these alone will not fulfill you. If you truly want to be fulfilled, then you must meet these final two needs – growth and contribution. These are the needs of your spirit. That is not meant in a religious sense, but in the sense of who you are at your core.

WHY?YOU?DO WHAT YOU DO

So if we all have the same six needs, why do we behave differently?

First, we don’t value all six of the needs equally. Some have certainty as their top need. Some will have love and connection. Others may have significance. But whichever is number one is going to?change the way you live your life.

Second, even if two people are both driven by the need for certainty, one person’s way of getting certainty will be different than the other’s. Perhaps one person’s?rule?for finding certainty is they have to work 20 hours a day, whereas?another gets?certainty by making everything wrong. “It will never work, and it’s all a waste of time. Why would I even get my hopes up?”

It seems counterintuitive, but people really will destroy their dreams and even break their own values to meet their needs. Understanding?how our emotions and actions relate to our Six Human Needs?is a key part of learning how to have more compassion for yourself and for others.?

If any of the following traits sound familiar, you might be surprised to learn they relate back to your Six Human Needs.

• Lying.?
• Cheating.?
• Attention seeking.?
• Bad habits.?
• Never saying no.?

So?why do you do what you do? Now that you understand the 6 Human Needs and how they?relate to your decisions, you can identify and correct their negative effects on your life.?If you can make empowering, positive shifts at this moment, then you can shift the entire direction of your life.

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Why Do we Do, what we DO?

To your success

Meenakshi Roy

Futurezen Lifestyle Academy