Vulnerability...The Ace up your Sleeve

Recently, I found myself in a high-pressure leadership situation, and I failed. Surrounded by some of the most senior global leaders at my company in a role-play learning scenario, I didn’t follow my instinct and delivered a poor performance which had negative consequences for the group I was working with. It was a moment of incredible vulnerability as a leader.

Instead of letting this moment wear me down, I used it as a tool for growth. Upon returning to my local team, I had the courage to share my failings with the team. In doing so – by sharing the experience and reflecting upon it - I walked away with clarity. That is, I should always trust who I am as a leader, I should listen to my instincts, and I should always be authentic.

This is just one very recent example of how vulnerability has helped me grow as a leader. Another example – which I’m sure other leaders will have encountered – is when, on more than one occasion, I have interviewed successfully for a role that would see the role’s predecessor report to me.

That person has every right to feel resentment, humiliation or shame. It’s my job, as their new leader, to help them overcome these feelings. And this is where vulnerability becomes a real asset. By being transparent and open about the difficult circumstances and by making it clear that they remain a very valuable and important part of the team, that individual is more likely to stay and continue to add value to the team.

Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness

Before diving too deep into a discussion about vulnerability in leadership, we need to clear up a common misconception. Vulnerability is not a sign of weakness; it is not the antithesis to strength.

Rather, vulnerability is a sign of courage. It is the ability to let your guard down and embrace the ideas of others; it is the ability to listen and to be authentic. Importantly, it is the ability to admit your weaknesses and ask for help. Leaders do not have all the answers, all of the time. No-one does.

Of course, showing vulnerability can be hard. There is an element of uncertainty and risk, as you are exposing yourself emotionally and opening yourself up to be judged by others. It demands the suppression of ego, as you support those around you to kick goals instead of kicking them yourself. For many leaders, this can be difficult.

All leaders, regardless of gender, have the opportunity to become better leaders by believing in themselves and not being afraid to speak up when it counts.

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