Visibly Invisible
Steph Turner
Career coaching online around the world, ‘anankelogist’ understanding your needs, author, ‘need-responder’ serving your needs where detached institutions fall short.
I came out as trans 32 years ago and continue to pay dearly. Consequently, I remain excluded from the rights and privileges most everyone in the US enjoys and takes for granted. I’ve earned several college degrees but remain underemployed.
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I simultaneously came to terms with my indigenous heritage back then. A pale-faced NDN socially invisible to the world by past government design. I initially saw myself as a two-spirit. Then realized over time that the term “transspirit” fits me much better. Transspirit means that I am spiritually compelled to transcend divisiveness to connect to the innate needs on all sides. Whatever I do to others I experience as doing also to myself.
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I realized I am compelled to transcend gendered divisiveness to reach more of my full potential. Spirituality compels be to integrate the complementary traits of reason and intuition, for example. This spirituality brings out more of life’s hidden potential. Such spirituality guides me to resolve more needs, remove more pain, and restore more wellness.
I don’t actually experience a feminine identity displacing my masculine side. For me, it’s not about identity but about spiritually healing the wounds of a sick society.
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I am also gifted with wisdom. I experience this gender transcendence as another spiritual gift. But this idea of being transgender could be a gift was swatted down decades ago. So I remain socially invisible. Even to the trans community, I am socially INVISIBLE.
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I am also an “acer” or someone who is asexual. Specifically, I am demisexual in that I can never experience sexual attraction to a woman until I first emotionally bond with them. And that has only occurred once in my life, with my former (and continuing friend) wife.
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I've been repeatedly targeted all my life for not fitting into heteronormative expectations. I have been repeatedly scapegoated for being different. Including being falsely accused as a sexual predator, because of that once-popular transphobic trope.
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Without corroborating evidence, a jury in 1993 convicted me of something the evidence showed had never even occurred. But the legal system is not well suited to admit or correct its many miscarriages of justice. My holistic being exists at odds with the divisive adversarialism of the err-prone judicial system.
Despite being invisibly asexual and invisibly spiritually deeply-connected, I am required by law to be on the lifetime sex offender registry. You know, it’s been hard for me to find anyone upset by this. This can serve as a test if I am to remain ignored and INVISIBLE.
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I thank God for gifting me with inspiring wisdom to get through all this. “Power is perfected in weakness,” the Apostle Paul writes. I’ve created websites to share this wisdom, with little engagement, little response. Apparently, it seems, that I am too INVISIBLE.
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This remarkable wisdom illuminates how we experience our needs. It inspired me to start a whole new social science around it, along with a profession applying it that I call need-response.
While it presents as the timely solution to cure many of our current problems, it still remains patently ignored. Perhaps I’m just too socially INVISIBLE.
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“I see you,” is a refreshing trope in the Avatar movies, but no one actually sees me. I am socially too different so I remain socially INVISIBLE.
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Now I take to the pages of LinkedIn to try again to introduce you and the world to this liberating wisdom. Which can help resolve needs, remove cause for pain, and restore wellness.
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Not sure how much longer I have or who really cares. But I must press on while I still have the time.
You can learn more at AnankelogyFoundation.org
Thank you.