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When I was young, I often confused happiness as an emotion. In fact, True Happiness is a "state of mind."

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Emotions come and go like waves on the surface, while the state of mind stays constant and rarely changes like the bottom of the ocean.

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Happiness is NOT "feeling good all the time." ????

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And If you're doing things to make you "feel good," in an attempt to achieve happiness, such as:

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*Nightclubs

*Alcohol

*Drug

*Meaningless sex

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You're going to receive a temporary high followed by a low drought for the next few days.

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Result?

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You will continue to chase an endless loop of getting high.

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And If you're doing things that you think will make you "feel good" based on society's value.

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*If I ONLY have that car .....................

*If I ONLY marry her ......

*If I ONLY get that promotion ............

*If I ONLY get through to this university............

*If I ONLY reach 50k/month .................

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You're going to find yourself asking, "what's next?". And if those society base value doesn't aline with your core value. You're going to find yourself entirely unfulfilled.

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?? So what am I suppose to do? Are you saying all of those things above are wrong?

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None of the above is wrongdoing. Happiness should achieve by looking at different lense on why you're doing the things you do.

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The three lenses I used personally are experiences, growth, and contribution.

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?? Experiences: What experiences do I want in this lifetime?

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What experiences do I want when I buy this new car, marry this woman, or take these jobs?

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The only real wealth is abundant in experiences, in my opinion.

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?? Growth: What kind of growth do I need to achieve the above experience?

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What kind of a person do I need to become to deserve or attract those experiences?

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??Contribution: What contribution can I make once I reach the level of growth desired and have all the experiences?

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What can I give back from the new promotion I got? What can I give back by getting the new car? What can I contribute to the relationship If we were to take the next step forward?

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Asking these questions is seeing the world at a different frame. Therefore, change your perception of what "happiness" is.

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Thank you,

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Vico.