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I've never heard of the company Zappo.Inc or their CEO Tony Hsieh before, until I came across one of the most underrated books "Deliver Happiness".* Will the link in the comment.
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I strangely felt connected with the author, mainly because of the immigrant background & academic Asian parents.
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So here what I learned about "happiness"...
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Humans are really bad at picking the things that they "think" will make them happy. Especially in the long run.
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However, if you ask people "why" they do what they do, enough times, they always arrive at the same answer. All human core desire is to "pursue happiness and avoid suffering".
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So what exactly is "happiness"?
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Well, there're 4 frameworks when it comes to maximising your happiness.
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??Happiness Framework #1
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Perceived Control - A sense of freedom & choice. A feeling of in control.
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These can include having your apartment/own income stream, the ability to choose which job you want or just freedom of speech.
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Take away people "sense of control", and one level of happiness will decrease significantly.
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**Perceived Control does not mean ultimate freedom.
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??Happiness Framework #2
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Perceived Progress - A sense of moving forward.
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"Happiness is just the achievement of goals"
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Why did you wake up this morning? why are you reading this long-ass post?
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To be better. To progress. We're all currently at point "A" and want to get to point "B".
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This is economy 101, this why people buy things, to better themself.
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People that do not feel a sense of progress, will fall into a state of uneasiness & agitation. Over time this will become "depression".
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??Happiness Framework #3
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Connectedness- A sense of deep connection.
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"Happiness does not primarily come from within, but from between"
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It's in our nature to seek a deeper connection with all living being as one of the most social primates.
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This connectedness can be spiritual with a higher power/being, nature, animal (pet), another human being or between oneself.
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??Happiness Framework #4
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Vision & Higher Purpose - A sense to serve.
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There are 3 levels of the "Maslow pyramid". The bottom is basic need such as food, water, shelter.
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Once achieved, humans are no longer motivated by material objects. They motivated to pursue the 2nd stage which is a career, passion, relationship, social status, hobby .etc.
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When all of the survival needs are met, we are motivated to pursue a higher purpose, one beyond money, oneself, one's company. This is where people find the most joy.
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So to sum it up, Happiness is a state of mind where its perceived control & progress, deep connectedness with oneself or another while pursuing a higher purpose.
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vico