BUT IT IS VERY RISKY TO MARRY JUST BY BELIEVING THIS KIND OF PROMISE.

But, they have to remember something when they get married.

First, they must not marry an unbeliever.

2 Corinthians 6:14 says, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?"

Sometimes when believers marry unbelievers, they say their future spouse has promised to attend church after the marriage.

AND THEY SAY IT IS VERY GOOD BECAUSE THEY CAN MARRY SOMEBODY THEY LOVE AND THEY CAN ALSO SAVE THE SOUL OF THAT PERSON.

BUT IT IS VERY RISKY TO MARRY JUST BY BELIEVING THIS KIND OF PROMISE.

THERE ARE MANY PEOPLE WHO LIE JUST TO GET MARRIED AND THEN BREAK THEIR PROMISE AFTER GETTING MARRIED.

They might attend church several times in the beginning, but faith cannot be given in a very short time. So, they soon stop attending church.

Some of them even hinder their wives, prevent them from attending church and persecute them.

Then, is it okay to marry if your future spouse attends church before the marriage?

You can have the answer if you see the new believers around you.

Even if they attend church for several months or even for more than a year, they may change their mind any time until they receive the Holy Spirit and have some measure of faith.

Also, as I explained above, you will have conflicts to the extent that the husband and wife have difference in the measure of faith.

Sometimes, the one who has had good faith begins to compromise, and this person's faith might cool down to be lukewarm.

Therefore, if you really want to get married, it is very important to pray for your future spouse in advance.

You have to ask God for somebody who has similar measure of faith and who has the same passion for New Jerusalem.

The second thing you have to remember is that you have to keep your body and mind pure until you actually get married.

This is the same for both men and women.

In the case of the Virgin Mary, she didn't sleep with Joseph even after getting engaged to him.

In the case of Jews, if they got engaged it was almost the same as getting married.

Nevertheless, they kept their chastity until the marriage. This should be the same today.

Even if you promised to get married, you have to keep each other until you actually have the wedding ceremony.

It is not right to say you sleep together before marriage because you love each other so much.

This is to deceive the other person as well as yourself.

If you really love the other person and want to spend the rest of your life with that person, you wouldn't ask that person to fulfill your lust only because you cannot be patient for such a short time until the wedding ceremony.

This is not love; this is only fleshly lust.

True love is to care for the other person and to keep that person until after the marriage.

If the other person keeps such a truthful love, how truthful that person is in your sight too!

They are wise brides and bridegrooms whom you can trust that they will not change even after the marriage.

But fleshly love changes very easily.

As I already mentioned the case of Amnon, fleshly love may appear fervent on the outside, but actually it is filthy.

It eventually changes and causes pain.

If you give your body before the marriage but actually do get married as promised, then it's a relatively fortunate case.

Some of you have concerns because you did not keep each other before you got married.

If it happened when you didn't really have faith, and if you actually became husband-and-wife as promised, it wouldn't take away your salvation.

But this is not something right in the sight of God. It means you have a blemish in your faith.

If you realized your fault after getting married, now you can thoroughly repent, circumcise your heart diligently, and run towards New Jerusalem.

If you go into the spirit by doing this, your blemish can be cleansed.

But there will be trials to achieve this level, and you have to take the trials with thanksgiving.

But if you hastily sleep with each other and not get married, it means you have created a great wall of sin.

In reality, there are so many people who betray their partner after sleeping with him/her.

In some cases, they break up even after they greet each other's parents, get engaged, and set the date for wedding.

I read from the letters that you write to consult me about many people who commit sins this way saying they will get married.

They deceive others and get deceived even though they listen to so many words of truth, experience the power of God, and say that they have faith.

They also know what the evident works of the flesh are.

They also know that it is great sin to willfully commit sins after knowing the truth and experiencing the grace of God.

If you follow your lust knowing the truth in this way, it means you're going the way of death.

Some say they believed the other person but were betrayed. But the truth is they are suffering because they didn't do the right thing before God.

Now, what would young people do if they have faith and wisdom?

They must never ask for the body or give their body only because they promised to get married.

If your date says he/she loves you but asks for something that is not right according to the truth, then you should quickly realize that your date is an untruthful person.

If he/she becomes disappointed or if his/her love cools down because you don't grant his/her request, it's much better not to get married with such a person.

Furthermore, if you date this person and that person and if you give your body easily even though you're not engaged, then it means you are committing evident works of the flesh.

Senior Pastor Dr. Jaerock Lee of Manmin Central church