Using Sensitive Language: Sexism and Sentences With They, His, and Her | Writer’s Relief

As society becomes more conscious of racism, sexism, ableism, homophobia, and transphobia, it’s important to choose words that do not unknowingly spread harmful ideas. Writer’s Relief has discussed the significance of gender-neutral language in writing, but it’s also important to be aware of other terms and expressions we use in our writing that might seem insensitive. Here’s how to use sensitive language in your writing.

Using Sensitive Language When Writing

Gender Bias and Singular “They”

When talking about a group of individuals where the gender of the group is established, it can be easier to understand the pronouns that would be used when discussing individual members of said group. For example:

During the all-girls school’s trip, every student was expected to write a journal entry of her favorite moment.

However, sometimes those assumptions might steer us wrong and lead us to sexist assumptions (a group of nurses will not always be all women) or merely be impossible to guess (a group of teachers could contain people of various genders).

In this case, what do you do?

At one time, grammarians would insist on using the phrase “his or her.” But nowadays that style of writing has been deemed unwieldy and also ignores those who might not use the pronouns she or he. As such, the use of his or her to refer to individuals in a group has fallen out of fashion. Instead, many style guides now recommend using the singular “they.”

As of 2019, most style guides—including the Chicago Manual of Style, the MLA Style Manual, and the APA Publication Manual—accept the usage of the singular they. The APA , the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, the Oxford English Dictionary, and the American Heritage Dictionary also support using the singular they for a person whose gender you don’t know.

A second-best option is to restructure your sentence so that it doesn’t mention individuals within a group.

Other Sensitive Areas

Race

It is extremely offensive to make sweeping generalities about an entire race or nationality, so be careful how you describe your characters, and avoid stereotypes of any kind. Consider how you describe your character and be careful comparing certain races to animals, hypersexualizing others, or exoticizing those who are unfamiliar.

Disability & Mental Health

It’s important to avoid the careless use of ableist language and tropes in writing, including words or phrases based on physical disabilities or neurodivergence. Words such as “dumb” and “lame” can be hurtful when used inappropriately.

Religion

This can be a very sensitive area. If you view a particular religion as fanatical or cultlike, refrain from describing it as such. Your readers could be mightily offended—and rightly so.

Sexuality

When writing about a person’s sexual orientation, be cautious about employing stereotypes. Humanity is vast and wonderfully varied. While there are those who might match certain aspects of common stereotypes, your reader might not appreciate it if, for example, you write about a queer person by only using textbook stereotypes.

Appearance

Some writers might describe a character as “fat” or “ugly” to imply repugnant personality traits. But in the spirit of using sensitive language, you shouldn’t make moral judgments about appearance. Someone who is slovenly shouldn’t automatically be described as overweight, just as attractiveness shouldn’t be treated as a guarantee of niceness or goodness.

Of course, there is an exception to these guidelines. If you’re trying to show that a person is narrow-minded and insensitive, you might have them using offensive words and phrases. Just make sure it’s clear that it is the character who is insensitive—not you, the writer.

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