Use The Power of Your Eyes
Understand this: Your eyes are the magnets. Even more so, your eyes are the reflection of your state of mind and similar minds attract each other. Your eyes attract the good and evil equally.
You can catch a glimpse of someone else’s state of mind in a split of a second. Just look into their eyes. The eyes are the hardest part of our body to shape and to put under the will. If you adore someone, your eyes are calm, loving and tender. You look for the other’s eyes; you want to dive into their eyes. Into their world. That is because the human mind works through images, imaginary or real. The real visions we receive through our eyes are the most direct and imminent way to influence us. Your eyes are the channels to your consciousness.
“Your eyes are the most important tools to influence the world. Not your mouth. Not your hands. The human being trusts the eyes only.” –Max Noble
And we trust the eyes. If someone is avoiding eye contact, we feel that the person is either insecure, has resentment, or feels some other negative emotions that he wants to avoid. It is not necessary you. Most likely it is not you. It is his own current emotions making him to avoid eye contact with you. But the feeling of uneasiness remains, until a proper, open and friendly eye contact is done. Before that, you both feel uneasy.
Truth of First Impression. Your eyes are the most important tools to influence the world. Do not be mistaken. Not your mouth. Not your hands. The human being trusts the eyes only. Neither your words, nor your handshake is enough to remove the distrust created by vicious gaze or avoidance of eye contact. You need to learn to radiate calm confidence by using your eyes, - you guessed, - calmly and confidently. The slow gaze is one of the most unutilized, yet powerful tools of creating favorable First Impression. To do this, you need first to be calm. Read my article about how to become calm in 10 seconds. Then look into the other’s eyes confidently, yet calmly. You can count the other’s eye blinks to start with. Just remember, few seconds is enough to create trust. Anything over 10 seconds are you become hostile.
Final Note. Try this. If I feel intimidated or irritated by someone or if I find myself gazing away from the person I am meeting, I imagine the person to be my daughter instead. I become instantly listening, caring, strong and patient with that person. Find your core love and use that to spread the calm and confident signals and the world will reply in adoration.
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My name is Max Noble. I am an Adventurer, Cosmopolitan & Life Connoisseur, and I commit acts of nobleness around the world. I am authoring a book titled part of "The Laws of First Impression", which this article is part of.
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7 年tout à fait d'accord !!! tout est dans le regard ; on ne peut rien cacher
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7 年Interesting quote. Thanks for sharing. “Your eyes are the most important tools to influence the world. Not your mouth. Not your hands. The human being trusts the eyes only.” –Max Noble
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7 年Excellent article. However, regarding eye contact. Not all cultures value eye contact highly. Therefore, to think that a person is being insecure because they do not sustain eye contact is a form of generalization. Especially if the person is from another culture where eye contact is not a necessity, in fact, might be discouraged. Let me give you an example. In some places in NYC if you stare at someone for too long, in the Ghetto for example, or while traveling on a train in the Ghetto area, it could be considered an insult. My personal experience is that eye contact is a matter of the person, and should not be an imposed necessity for society. True, eye contact is important, and I agree, that in some cases the quote is true. However, there are other scenarios. Thank you for sharing.