Unveiling the 5 Wrong Reasons for Marriage

Marriage is a sacred bond between two individuals. It is meant to be based on love, trust, and shared values. However, statistics reveal that not all marriages are entered for the right reasons. Many couples tie the knot for various misguided motivations.

And these reasons can jeopardize the stability and happiness of their union. It is essential to shed light on these wrong reasons. For this reason, we encourage individuals to approach marriage clearly and sincerely.

So, let us delve into the motives and explore the trends that threaten the sanctity of marriage.

1. Selfish Fulfillment

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One of the most erroneous reasons for entering into marriage is seeking personal gratification and fulfillment. Choosing a life partner based solely on what they can offer us can be disappointing.

For instance, one partner may be looking to satisfy a sexual craving, so they marry aiming to fulfill that desire. Later in marriage, they discover their partner did not solve that urge. Hence, they continue the search. And consequently, the marriage is broken.

Equally, one partner is left frustrated and feeling used.

Marriage is not about finding someone who meets our needs. It is about selflessly loving, serving, and growing alongside another individual. True marital fulfillment is found in giving of ourselves and nurturing a partnership built on mutual support and respect.

2. Social Expectations

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Another reason that people get into marriage is to fit in. Many individuals succumb to external pressures and societal expectations when considering marriage.

Take Mary's story, for example. Mary is a 39-year-old career woman. All her friends are married and look happy in their marriage. Mary begins questioning her worth and thinks only marriage can fix that feeling.

She marries the next guy who shows some interest. Unknown to her, the guy is a serial womanizer. Mary called it quits after a year of struggle to keep the marriage. Dejected, she asked for a divorce.

Lesson -the desire to conform to societal expectations can overshadow personal desires and compatibility. However, true happiness lies in embracing one's authentic self. This means selecting a partner whose values, goals, and dreams align with ours.

It is vital to prioritize personal convictions over societal expectations to get a union that has the potential to thrive.

3. Escape From Loneliness

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Only a few people enjoy their own company. Loneliness can be an unsettling emotion that pushes people toward marriage. Unknown to many people, marriage cannot solve the loneliness problem. The Author of marriage was seeking to solve an "alone" problem. A companionship was what he desired.

It will be a disaster if you enter marriage with a notion to escape the loneliness. It is worth noting that two single individuals enter the marriage. Single here refers to unique, separated, and whole, not unmarried.

You could be unmarried but not single. In effect, you are looking for someone to complete you. This search is where many people need to improve. In essence, marriage is a union of two complete individuals coming into one, and the two become one-fused into one.

However, using marriage as a mere escape from loneliness can result in settling for less than what we truly deserve.

It is essential first to cultivate self-love. Later, you can establish strong support networks as you engage in self-discovery. Subsequently, you can seek a life partner.

When entering into marriage from a place of wholeness rather than desperation, we lay the foundation for a healthier, more meaningful relationship.

4. Marrying on The Rebound

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People who are coming out of hurt by a previous relationship feel depressed and discouraged. Further, these people may have low self-esteem. For this reason, they may jump into the first person who offers concern and sympathy.

By doing so, they hope the hurt will be manageable. Also, they feel like there is nothing wrong with them. The problem with this relationship is that you marry for convenience rather than love. You are feeling worthless, and then bang! Someone is offering empathy and compassion.

It's not love but convenience; you should not fall for it. It's destined for disaster.

5. Hitting Back at The parents

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It may seem like a makeup point, but some people indeed get married to get back at their parents. They may not like their parent's rules. Also, they may not like their parent's lack of approval for their choices of partners.

This resentment forces them into something foolish. They are marrying without due consideration. This decision is usually headed for disaster, bitterness, and anger.

And irritation may override the right qualities of a partner. A person who marries to spite their parents often sees their spouse not as a company but as an escape from the dominating parents.

Final Thoughts

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In sum, marriage is a sacred covenant designed to fulfill a greater purpose in our lives. Understanding the misguided motivations allows you to approach marriage with wisdom and purpose.

Individuals can journey toward a deep and fulfilling partnership. Here is how to do it, by rejecting selfish fulfillment, societal expectations, and undue cultural pressures.

Embrace the true essence of marriage – selfless love, shared vision, and mutual respect for a purpose-driven life together.