The "Unspeakables"
Deepak Mehta
Sales, Presales, Strategy Expert | IIMA | BITS Pilani | FRM? | PMx3 (Project, Product, Program Manager) | Writer | Wanderer
Q. What important aspect of gender equality isn't talked about enough?
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A. Anything that runs contrary to the mainstream feminism narrative. Any facet that highlights female privilege. Any angle that does not present women as the oppressed gender. Any vantage point from which men appear more wretched than women.
Did you know that the workplace fatalities for men are 12x higher than their female counterparts? It is in part because men form a larger part of the workforce, and in part because they are willing to take up more physically demanding, and perilous gigs like construction, fishing, factories, etc.
Or that the male suicide rate is 1.8 times those of females?
How about military enrolment? Not even half the world’s large nations allow women in military as “equals to men”. They are confined to non-combat roles, and yet the total enrolment ranges from 3–25%.
Or that homelessness is a gendered issue, and it mostly impacts men? There are 3–5x more homeless men across major developed nations.
Even legally, men fare worse in this gender delineation. Mothers are 6x more likely to be awarded sole custody of the kids than fathers. Or that men again make up 90% of the prison population in US? This stems from the fact that women are treated more leniently, receive better plea deals, and 40% shorter sentences than men. Laws concerning rape are still outdated in most nations, with the definition of rape in most national laws including the words “of females”. About 2–10% of all rape cases are fabricated, and while the proportion is not high, the issue here is that the accusers get away with no or minimal repercussions, whereas proven rape charges normally lead to multi-decade or life sentences, or in some nations the death penalty. In India, adultery is defined as only a male-perpetuated crime.
While talking about female empowerment, or gender equality, there is seldom mention of The Long List of Female Privileges, ranging from legal preferential treatment, to social conditioning - real men don’t cry, real men don’t hit back at women, real men are brave, “ladies first”. Women don’t have to consciously monitor their actions around men or kids, but men have to in case they are labeled a creep or a pedophile. Men are still expected to pay for dating due to the skewed dating demographic. Men even are subject to higher premiums in Auto Insurance.
My main gripes about the current, fourth wave of the Feminism movement is the move from “equal opportunities” to “equal outcome”, the increasingly antagonistic attitude towards men, and the selection of issues which primarily affect affluent, already empowered women, rather than focusing on the ones plaguing the most vulnerable sections of the female population.
Microsoft PM | XLRI 2019-21
6 年Am afraid, but with the string of articles you have been propelling this month(let's also include the ones that you like and follow) have narrated a starkly different opinion than your concluding paragraph here. For sure, you have stated the facts correctly and I for sure, don't deny the exploitation of 'privilege' as you call it. Let me try to add reasonings for a few if not all. Prisons- That's because women commit far less crimes than men, plain and simple! That can be due to a skewed demographic, the fact that most woman are coy in the core, they aren't entitled to such freedom(if you are lectured and interrogated every time you step out of the house and have strict entry timings, it becomes a little difficult to plot a murder or burglary in the midnight) or rather a mix of all of this. Coming to your stance on the recent campaigns, yes the ladies are influential, that's the only and very reason they are saying it. If you have families to answer and society to judge, it becomes difficult to come out like that. I have as much hatred as you for women like Ira who have been falsely and more than that stupidly accusing people. But, in the hindsight, you must not neglect that many accused have admitted to it. There should be a selective support but not an outrageous and indifferent denial.?
Manager, Insights @ IIMA Ventures | IIM Ahmedabad | Case Writer | Expert Columnist at Higher Education Digest
6 年I agree. I totally believe in the equality of sexes but that equality should be nurtured as part of a conscious society. Women should not need to wrench out their rights and males should not feel privileged just because they are men.? Crimes should be treated equally; that might happen when society finds that a man can perhaps care better for a child.? I believe both genders have pressures about dealing with their respective and culturally prescribed roles. But let's not take sides. Let's work towards creating balance where both boys and girls? can feel safe and confident in being just exactly 'who' and 'what' they choose to be. Thanks for starting this dialogue?
Co-Founder at Bumshum, Founder at Aarrrmor Digital Agency, Rukhmabai Initiatives
6 年Great writeup. You raised some interesting points.? The issues?brought up in this article are important, and should be looked at, studied and solved like all troubling social issues of our time. To do so, the 1st step would be to acknowledge that privilege because of gender identity exists. Without protecting any oppressors or failing any victims, regardless of gender, all crimes and injustices arising out of gender inequality needs to be dealt with similar sensitivity and punished with similar severity. Just like men who are proponents of equality object when the general population of males is labelled sexist, I too object to being painted with the same brush as the "feminists" who supposedly hate men and don't fight issues plaguing underprivileged women. Let's not diminish the contribution of the unsung (gender neutral)heroes contributing to solving some of the gravest crises defenceless women and men all over the globe.? By any sweeping statements about either men or women, we always belittle the people who don't spend time voicing their opinions online or who let their work, actions and conduct speak for them. Instead of pointing out what the "other people" are doing wrong(for which one can always find ample examples), it is time instead for people like you to create constructive and meaningful dialogues around some of the pressing issues you have brought up in this article.