Unlocking the Secrets of Emotional Intelligence
Clarence Cheong
Author of "More Than 100%" | Insightful & Funny | Wielder of Dad-Jokes | MDRT | CFP | DLI | Senior Group Financial Services Director | Podcaster | International Speaker | Woah what a mouthful... Still reading? ??|
Hey there, Skill Stackers!
Welcome back to Stacked Skills, where we're always on the quest to level up our life skills, one chuckle at a time. Today, we're delving into the enchanting realm of Emotional Intelligence (again, yes, it is THAT important!) – that magical ability to understand, manage, and master the rollercoaster of feelings that make us human.
Buckle up, grab your emotional toolbox, and let's embark on this wild ride together!
1. The Emotion Commotion
Ah, emotions – those pesky little creatures that can turn a perfectly good day into a rollercoaster of feels faster than you can say "ice cream emergency." Fear not! With a dash of self-awareness and a sprinkle of empathy, you'll be riding the emotional waves like a pro surfer in no time.
Realise when you get a huge shock. When you open your mouth, instead of an instant retort or exclamation, draw in a BREATH. By keeping calm and centered, you are more in control of the situation!
2. The Art of Self-Awareness
A crucial pitstop on our emotional intelligence journey: self-awareness. It's like having a backstage pass to the inner workings of your mind, complete with VIP access to your thoughts, feelings, and even those embarrassing childhood memories you'd rather forget.
Here, understand that everyone is built different (including you!) and are a combination of their own life experiences, which color their lenses and perspectives… This shift in mindset allows you the mental flexibility to recognise how to deal with yourself & others in a more measured fashion!
3. The Empathy Express
All aboard the empathy express! Next stop: understanding others. Whether it's your best friend's breakup or your colleague's caffeine addiction, empathy is the key to unlocking the mysteries of the human heart.
The saying has always been “walk a mile in their shoes”. But you know, their shoes will rarely be your size or cutting. Impossible to do the actual walk.
Same for the figurative walk, to be honest. It is actually impossible to BE THEM. But that doesn’t stop you from IMAGINING you are them! Picture yourself as the other: think through their life experiences and culture and context, and that could start to shed light on why they behave as such.
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By spending the time to picture their circumstances, you can better appreciate their responses. And you can act accordingly!
4. Social Skills 101
Last but not least, we're rounding out our emotional intelligence crash course with a lesson in social skills. From charming your way through awkward dinner parties to diffusing office conflicts like a seasoned diplomat, mastering the art of social interaction is the secret weapon in your skill-stacking arsenal. So, polish up those conversation starters and get ready to dazzle the world with your social prowess!
One really solid skill is the ability to do “small talk”. Harder than most imagine, yet all it takes is a small leap of faith. The best ways to start talking to strangers, for example, is to compliment them, ask for minor help, or make an observational comment. Great books have been written on this topic, DM me for ideas if you need them.
Well, dear Skill Stackers, that brings us to the end of another enlightening issue of Stacked Skills. We hope you've enjoyed this deep dive into the mysterious world of emotional intelligence and that you've emerged with newfound wisdom, a few laughs, and maybe even a tear or two (hey, we won't judge). Until next time, keep stacking those skills like a Jenga champion, and remember: life's too short to take yourself too seriously. So, go forth and conquer – with heart!
Stacking Always,
Clarence Cheong, Empathy Emissary
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CEO and Co-Founder at Optevo
2 个月Understanding how important emotion is, is something that's finally being acknowledged. Great insights here Clarence.
Author of the best selling ???????????? ?? ???????? Positive People Leadership Skills You Wish Your Manager Had | Mentor | Leader of positive cultural change | Keynote speaker
2 个月The crucial step of self awareness and how we are reacting is crucial on our journey to unlocking our EQ Clarence Cheong! Another fabulous edition mate!