Unlocking Love: Top 5 Questions Singles Want Answered

Hey there, love seekers! Welcome to this week’s edition of the Matchmaker’s Memo, where we transform dating dilemmas into delightful discoveries. As a professional matchmaker, I’ve seen it all – the good, the bad, and the downright hilarious. Today, I’m answering the top five burning questions I am often asked.

1. The dating pool is truly contaminated. How do I go about meeting great, honest, and truly single people?

Answer: Navigating the dating world can sometimes feel like a minefield, but there are strategies to ensure you meet quality individuals:

• Join Niche Groups: Engage in activities or groups that align with your interests. Shared hobbies often lead to genuine connections.
• Use Reputable Dating Apps: Choose platforms known for their thorough vetting processes.
• Be Clear About Your Intentions: Communicate from the start that you're looking for a serious, monogamous relationship.
• Trust Your Instincts: If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t ignore red flags.
• Ask Direct Questions: It’s okay to ask someone early on if they’re single and what they’re looking for.

Remember, honesty and transparency are the foundation of any solid relationship. Seek out environments where these values are prioritized, and you'll find people who match your sincerity.

2. I had a great first date, but he is shorter than I typically date. Not sure there is potential.

Answer: It’s common to have a "type," but sometimes being too rigid can cause you to miss out on incredible opportunities. If he checks almost all of the boxes:

• Focus on Qualities that Matter: Consider the traits that truly matter in a relationship, such as kindness, compatibility, and shared values.
• Give It Time: Attraction can grow. Sometimes, the things that are different become the things you love most.
• Be Open-Minded: Love often surprises us when we least expect it. Height is just one aspect of a person; don’t let it overshadow the potential for a beautiful connection.

3. Will I ever find someone? Where are they?

Answer: This is a question many of us ask at some point. Here’s how to stay positive and proactive:

• Stay Social: Attend events, parties, and gatherings. The more people you meet, the higher your chances.
• Expand Your Horizons: Consider different types of people or venues you haven’t explored yet.
• Self-Improve: Invest in yourself, your hobbies, and your passions. Happy, fulfilled people attract others.
• Patience is Key: Love often finds us when we’re not looking too hard, so you should trust that your person is out there.

4. We had a great date. How soon is too soon for a text or a call to schedule the next one?

Answer: Timing can be tricky, but showing genuine interest is always good. Here are some guidelines:

• Follow-Up Within 24 Hours: A simple “I had a great time” text shows interest and respect.
• Be Direct, But Not Pushy: Suggest another date casually. For example, “I’d love to see you again. How about this weekend?”
• Match Their Energy: If they’re responsive and eager, feel free to be the same. If they’re a bit slower, give them some space.

5. We have had three dates; why are we not exclusive yet? How soon is too soon to bring up that question?

Answer: Exclusivity is a significant step, and timing varies for everyone. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

• Gauge the Connection: If your dates have been meaningful and consistent, starting the conversation is reasonable.
• Communicate Openly: Around the third or fourth date, asking where they see things going is okay. A simple “I really enjoy spending time with you and would like to know if you see this becoming exclusive” can open up an honest dialogue.
• Be Prepared for Any Response: They might need more time, and that’s okay. It’s important to know where each other stands.

Dating can be a rollercoaster, but it’s also an exciting journey. Each person you meet and each experience you have brings you one step closer to finding that special someone. Stay open, stay positive, and keep in mind every no brings you one step closer to a yes, and every date is a step forward in your journey. Trust in the process, embrace the surprises, and celebrate the connections you make, no matter how brief. Love is not just about the destination but the beautiful adventure of getting there.

Until next time, happy dating!