Unless you make it a priority time is not available

I don't really think that we can control this. Human nature is to choose what we like/love over what likes/loves us. Sometimes you won't even know that you are ignoring someone who cares a lot for you, because you do not even care enough to notice. Blunt but true. Exactly that is why, you don't get to decide whether you hurt someone or not. If they say you hurt them, you most probably did.

Having said that, if there is anyone in your life who makes you feel that you are their number one priority, then you should value that person the most. It is never their lack of options but their choice to put you first. And if you do not have any such person then “You” should be that person for yourself. Moreover, if you find that you are giving them 90% and you are getting 5% in return its good reason to move on. As may be it will feel like we have lost them but the actual loss was not yours.

Let me tell you a step by step way out of it. If you want to follow the violent and short advices of other people it is fine. But what I am going to tell you right now the way I will tell you is the gentleman's way and it will be hard. But there are results, as I have seen them myself. Meditate a little (i am not talking about sitting in an upright position and meditate for hours). Get yourself in a comfortable position and focus on all the things you feel, the anger, the pain, the sorrow, the need for revenge and if you feel anything else. The point of doing this is to be mindful of what you feel and what is going inside your head. Emotional clarity is a necessary step.

Accept the truth. Now understand something here, it will be hard and painful and in the end it will be worth it. Accept that she doesn't love you, accept that you are wasting your hopes on her, accept that she may never love you. Accept all these things. Cry if you feel like crying, put a pillow on your face and scream if you want to scream but accept these truths. Forgive her and yourself. Now your anger against her and against yourself will begin to calm down. At that point get into a comfortable position and relax.

Take a few deep breaths and say to yourself “I forgive her for what she has done and I forgive myself for what mistakes I have made” I am not saying that she was a mistake, but you would feel that way too. Forgiveness does not mean that you have to go to her and say I forgive you and then trust her again. It just means that you have made peace with yourself and your emotions and your reality. That you have move forward those violent and angry thoughts. That you are at peace with yourself.

Work on yourself. Now at this point you are a lot better and feeling a lot free. This is the golden time. Find out all the things you would like to improve in yourself and work on them. Improving English, improving your confidance, learning public speaking, improving your personality etc. This is important for you because you are doing this for yourself not for others. To make your life and yourself better. Don't be trapped in the dogma that “i am good as i am”. No matter who you are there is always something you can improve about yourself. A great man always knows that he is great at nothing and works on improving himself more and more. That is how champions are made my friend. That is your time to make yourself into a great mam.

I hope all this helped you. Trust me I have tried many things and these are the ones that are the most beneficial of them all. These are the ones that worked. There are the true practical methods. The choice is yours, do you want to make yourself better or do you just want to be that jerk of a guy that just sits and cries and plans on taking a revenge. The choice is yours. Make yourself your priority and invest on yourself. Study, work, travel, meet new people, spend time for people you love, help someone in need, taste new cuisine, create memories.Thereafter, You would never be in a situation to worry about someone making you an option. Cheers!