UNEXPECTED LIFE SETBACK

Roadblocks are obstacles that do a little bit more than just slow you down.

They’re more like tar paper. They actually threaten to make you stuck. They’re something that impedes your progress or prevents you from accomplishing something.

They can vary in size and intensity… a bump in the metaphorical road, or a large pothole.

A tree blocking the path; or sometimes hopefully not too often the road is completely washed away by an unexpected river floods.

?What do you do then?

Do you wave the white flag in defeat?

No. You find a different route. You start over. You try again.

The ability to cope with setbacks, adapt, and then move forward in a productive way is key to having positive well-being and achieving professional success.

Growth mindset the belief that we are always learning and that intelligence is not fixed can profoundly affect motivation, engagement, academic achievement, and the willingness to persist through.

It’s a habit of mind that shapes how we react to events in every aspect of our lives.

Setbacks and challenges should be seen as opportunities for learning and growth.

?Let’s face it: That’s really hard to do, especially when we’re frustrated, stressed, and short on time. As part of developing the habit of learning from setbacks.

While our work in this area is in its very early stages, what follows are some of the behaviors and ways of thinking that will become familiar?

Manage Emotions;

Seek and Accept Help;

?Be Flexible and Adapt;

Keep Trying.

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Thank you?...Manage Emotions: Students practice identifying their own emotions and negative self-talk. They learn to express emotions calmly and effectively and experiment with a variety of stress-management techniques. ?

Seek and Accept Help: Part of seeking and accepting help is first learning how to recognize when you need help, then reaching out to get it. Students learn to receive feedback well, even when it is critical, and seek feedback from peers, mentors, and experts.

Be Flexible and Adapt: In exercising flexibility, one must first recognize when they are unwilling to be flexible and what contributes to those feelings. Students practice modifying their thinking and behaviors in order to become more flexible. They learn to adapt to new situations or challenges.

Keep Trying: Students practice persisting and working through challenges.

They change their thinking to recognize that perfection is an unrealistic and unattainable goal.

They practice focusing on the journey, not just the end result.

One of the best things we can do to help others develop this habit is to talk about it, to share our own experiences, and to create a safe environment that encourages taking risks, getting things wrong, and learning from one another.

A setback is defined as a time when you go “backwards” a little in your progress against social anxiety, either because you faced too high of an anxiety

Like most positive habits, students learn best from observing others who model these behaviors and ways of thinking.

Situation or certain negative thoughts popped into your head an inopportune time when you weren't expecting it.

Do you want to add a word or two?....

Any successful person experiences setbacks. It goes hand in hand with trying something bigger and better. Setbacks happen, so expect and accept them when they come.

The creator of a thriving children’s nonprofit once told me, “Setbacks are a badge of honor. It meant that I was doing something hard.” Embrace your badge of honor and own it.

Allow yourself time to acknowledge your feelings of disappointment. But put a time limit on how long you will focus on that feeling. You might still feel disappointment, but redirect that emotional energy toward progress.

Your promotion didn’t happen or you weren’t hired for your dream job—accept your feelings as they are. Once recognized, quickly move on to “now what?”

Your comments?....

Manage their blind spots.

If failure causes us to lose perspective, anticipate what will cause you to lose yours.

What’s your blind spot?

I am naturally impatient, so when I can’t see the progress I had hoped for, I know my blind spot is growing.

Others might assume that a setback is exclusively their fault and miss other contributing factors. It keeps you from accurately assessing what really happened and what you need to do.

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