The Unexpected Gift

I just woke up from a nap. A nap to me, is a time and place to create. I go through this whole ritual. Today, while during this nap/meditation, I heard over and over again, "You did me a favor". So lets get into it...

How many of us have been used, abused, f*ucked over and then forgotten? The answer is all of us. Lord knows I have. But the flip side of that coin is, I have done some pretty messed up things too. I'm solid now. Sure, I need to tighten?up a few things. But I love who I have become. And I ain't mad. Those who used me, they really gave me an unexpected gift. The gift of resiliency. For everything that didn't work out for me, made me dig a little deeper, try a little harder. Demand more from myself, than I ever thought was possible.?

I could use this time to talk about the terrible things that happened to me. But instead I'll talk about what I have gained. And the biggest gain was freedom. Being able to forgive will give you a freedom that is supernatural. Being able to put down the weight of an offense is priceless. Holding onto anger does nothing to the transgressor. It's only hurting you. When you can wrap your head around that, you will drop the anger faster than you would drop a piece of hot coal. There is so much beauty available to us when we feel broken. All we have to do is keep moving forward. And you can't move forward while you're holding onto the past.

Those things that were done to me intentionally or unintentionally,?walked me into a pretty amazing life. Why? Because I kept moving forward. Those set backs, were really set ups. I've made a ton of money, and traveled the world. In the history of history, I have the worlds greatest marriage. And these things probably would not have happened if I was comfortable. Sure, it's possible that they could have. But discomfort when used correctly, offers growth. So if you're in your season of discomfort, grow!

Meditation has taught me that it's all useful. It may not all be fun, but it can be fruitful. The trick is not to get caught in a "why me?" mentality. Why not you? It's just life. It's up to us to give it meaning. And there can be no meaning when we are busy blaming. Yes, there will be some events that are beyond unfair. Play fair anyway. There will be others living a life that you admire. Cheer for them anyway. And there will be some people who will take advantage of you. Find the gift. This is your time. Doors are waiting to be opened. A new level has your name on it.

My nap was such an important reminder that I am in control. It hasn't always worked out for me, true. But it did get me working. And for that, I am eternally grateful. The unexpected gift. It's there. You just have to look for it.?