The Unethical/Immoral Dr. James Barbaria

This is straight from the book: "EMAILS OF AN UNETHICAL SHRINK"

LINK to BOOK: https://www.amazon.com/Emails-Unethical-Psychologist-Sandra-Wyllie-ebook/dp/B0C7MXKNKN?ref_=ast_author_mpb

An email from Dr. James Barbaria dated 12/05/2013 where he explains about his sexual feelings for me and my having sex with my husband!!!

Sandra,

First, the issue again for me today was not about feeling pressured, but about feeling threatened?as I had described, especially?by the greater exposure of what is happening between us to the larger world in ways that I would have no control over. ?As I had indicated, I know that that is a trigger and a source of vulnerability for me, which I have to further work on!

Second, as I thought I had stated, I in no way would expect you to consult me about any decision that you would make, with regard to your husband or anyone or anything else! ?What I had stated was that I would appreciate our processing together any decision that would have potential implications or significant consequences for our relationship or for my life as well...that's all! ?And I can't imagine that you would not want that for yourself also?

? ? ? ?Third, I never said that I do not care about you're being sexual with anyone else, including your husband. ?I was only trying to practice acceptance around how you were handling that part of your life with him, having developed the impression that whatever was there was not emotionally significant to you and that I had further thought that it had been diminishing significantly over time as your feelings for me had been developing. ?Also, having thought about it a lot since we met earlier, I know now that on an even deeper level, because of what the conversation today had stirred up within me, that I had not been letting myself really think about it, even blocking it out as some level, as a way to deal with it! This is consistent with my only more recently allowing myself to fully feel my feelings for you; it's having been hard for me, as I have indicated earlier "to let myself go there!" ?

Love,

Jim