Understanding Your Feelings

“All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Why is it that we're so afraid of our thoughts? Why is it that we're so afraid of our feelings? Why do we try to run from them and try to keep busy all of the time?

A lot of times we're numbing our true selves. We're numbing our thoughts, we're numbing our feelings because we're afraid to actually come in contact with them.?

There's a lot of stuff that's happening in the world right now.

There's a lot of things that we can look at and react to in different ways, whether that's happiness, sadness, frustration, anger, all of those things. What it comes down to is our reaction to everything inside of us and what we can do about those reactions.

Meditation is not easy for a lot of people. I have been doing it for 13 years and am still struggling with it. A lot of people think that they struggle with meditation because they have to stop thinking but the point of meditation is not to stop thinking. The point of meditation is to observe your thoughts and be with your thoughts.?

It’s important to be with your thoughts, to just simply observe them and see where they are, what they're thinking, what they’re doing.?

What if you were to just be alone with your thoughts for a little while and say, where's this coming from? Why am I thinking this? Why am I feeling this? Be alone with your feelings for a little while? Acknowledge that you feel the way you do then ask yourself why.?

Take out pen and paper and get the abstract out of your head.

If you feel anxious then sit in that anxiousness for a minute and try not to fight it.

Try to figure out why you're feeling anxious. Go a little deeper because when you go a little deeper and give yourself the space to work through it, you start to realize that what's actually the issue on the surface is very rarely the issue. Let your feelings come out, acknowledge them.?

The more that you try to avoid pain, the more painful it will be later on down the road.?

Let your sadness, your restlessness, your anger,your happiness or whatever it is come up. And then you ask yourself, where is this coming from? Why do I feel this way? Start to understand your emotions.?

One of the things that very few of us were taught is how to understand our emotions. I think a big reason is because our parents don't understand their emotions. You can't teach something that you don't understand.

If you want to be happier, understand your happiness more. Understand your sadness, anxiety, frustration and anger. What happens over time is you begin to work through those feelings and overcome them easier.?

Many? people think I'm the most motivated person and must be happy all the time. No! There's days I don't feel it and that's okay. And because I’ve been on a self-discovery journey, when I find myself in a state that I don't want to be in, I simply accept it. I journal through it, I don’t try to rush myself out of it.?

Give yourself permission to think, give yourself permission to feel, and then observe those thoughts and feelings. You don’t need to associate with them, just acknowledge them and thank them for being there.??

Once you allow the feeling to come up, it usually leaves. If you try to fight it or act like it’s not there, it lingers.?

You're not going to experience the highest of highs, if you haven't experienced the lows as well. Some days are going to be great, some days are going to be okay and some days are not going to be the best.?

Become the observer. Learn to understand your emotions, and you will have a happier existence.?

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