Understanding The Truth Behind Your Relationships

Have you been holding onto a relationship just because you spent too much time and efforts into it? Does taking out time for yourself makes you feel terrible because you could not spend it how your partner wanted you to? Are you unable to end a relationship because who might come into your life after them could be worse? Does staying quiet just to avoid an argument has become your pet peeve? Is your partner physically or emotionally abusive?

Well, if your answer is yes to any of the above questions, then you might be in a toxic relationship. Lack of understanding, communication, trust, respect, and frequent conflicts without proper resolution are some of the characteristic features of a toxic relationship. Often there are times when the other person might hamper your growth probably with a sub-conscious intent.

Just as rough patches are a part of a huge lush green playground, so are conflicts a part of any relationship. But when the rough patches start to cover most of the land, that is when it turns barren and that is exactly what happens when there are too many arguments, blame games and misunderstandings in a relationship; it leads to unhappiness and dissatisfaction.

When the other person always seems to put their needs as a priority while being neglectful of yours or there seems to be an unhealthy competition, the relationship might lead to an unhealthy outcome. If the cycle of constant dismissal of your concerns and avoidant behaviour instead of communication is being repeated it is an indicator that something in your relationship needs to change. On the extreme side of toxicity would be the display of violence or physical abuse, which should be given immediate attention and thereby, the necessary action should be taken.

Often, an open communication by voicing your concerns without hesitation might help in resolving the issues but if not, then getting yourself some outside help in the form of relationship counselling might help you look at and resolve those issues in a better way. There comes a time when the two parties at conflict are unwilling to communicate or might need assistance in opening up about their concerns in front of each other. A therapist in that instance holds a non-judgemental and empathetic ground helping the couple reach an amicable understanding of their situation.

?Of course, getting out of that relationship would prove to be a courageous step if that is the last resort to achieve inner peace or if it involves severe physical or emotional abuse and neglect.

Remember, relationships do demand adjustments and sacrifices but what makes a difference is that they are done willingly and does not hamper the person’s well-being. Sometimes, the pain of staying in a relationship feels greater than the pain of ending it! And that calls for some decision-making on your part!