Understanding Behavior of kids

Kids-Kids-Kids –The moment we think about kids, all our senses start responding in different manner naturally – which is the feeling of love, care, affection, politeness, expectations, high on energy and so on.

Isn’t it is a great and wonderful feeling?

Yes, it is undoubtedly

But there is other side to it too, which comes from our own nature and own life experiences as an individual, which comes from our own experience with kids as a parent, which comes from expectations  that we accept as a parent from society and start expecting more and more from kids and start spoiling our own kids happiness and childhood due to external pressure.

But ironically , we never give a deep thought to it because today’s young parents are so busy in their own life and in most of the cases they don’t give sufficiently required quality time to their kids (means expecting output without input) but they start expecting more and more from kids , which puts unnecessary pressure on kids as a result it hinders their happiness and kids spend their childhood under parents and society pressure to perform well as per expectations , which simply means they lose themselves as kid and carry same legacy till generations unknowingly.

Isn’t it so true?

You can see difference yourself these days, as due to Corona virus, we all are sitting at home and having quality time with our kids and family? Can you observe any change in your own feelings and your kid’s behavior? Are your experiencing a feeling of happiness and better-quality life?

Due to all these above mentioned reasons , behavior of kids gets badly impacted and we as parents are totally unaware of it as we are under our own impression “We are doing best for our kids” consciously- it’s true but considering above mentioned reasons unconsciously- it’s not true.

What is the Solution?

1) Spend Sufficient quality time with your kids every day- This very crucial in shaping kids and developing emotional intelligence in kids. They want their parents to be with them so that they can speak their heart out but over period of time when kids observe their parents are not giving sufficient time, they stop expecting it silently which develops feeling of lack of belonging in them in long run. Kids need parents time; kids need Hugs and Kisses of parents everyday which develops emotions in them and makes their bonding very strong.

2) Using Positive words for kids always – Sometimes unintentionally, due to our own nature of not selecting words, or due to lack of awareness or due to actual behavior of kids, we start using negative words for our kids like –

a)      You are not confident at all

b)     You are not very creative.

c)      You are not fast; you cannot run fast and so on.

This has deep impact on kid’s subconscious mind, and it can kill lot inside kids. Always use positive words for your kids, this gives them lot of confidence even if they are not performing good, there is way of making them understand by using proper words.

3) Raise your own energy level- Everything is energy in this Universe. The way we think decides our energy levels and transformed or transferred accordingly. Unconsciously, Energy of parents gets pass on to their kids – positive or negative, High, or low, whatever it is. Ensure your energy is positive and high so that it gives positive vibes to your kids always.

4) Affirmations for Kids—Very few people know the importance of positive affirmations on us. It directly hits our subconscious mind and once it is freeze in subconscious, it is bound to happen, nobody can stop it ever. Give positive affirmations to your kids to repeat every day at least 3 times in a day and you will see wonderful results after 60 days.

5) Stop Comparing- Everyone is unique, and we all have our own strengths and we all are different creatures. Out of high expectations, we start comparing our kids with others and gives lot of negatives vibes to our kids unconsciously under the peer pressure. Let them flourish and explore themselves in their own way under your guidance.

Kids are flowers, give them enough time to flourish and you will see their beauty and enjoy their fragrance.