Under Pressure part 3: THE FIX

The 3 part series on learning and discerning…

What pressure is helpful?

What pressure is harming?

AND…?

What to do when that pressure is “Pressin down on you”.

Part 1…The good vs the bad?

Part 2… Spot the pressure cooker in your life (last week's post)?

AND?

Part 3… Your Impact & Thrive guide to detaching yourself from the pressure causing you stress?

AND?

Being the CHANGE you wish to see in others??

Part 3?

The 3 way Impact & Thrive? Quick? FIX!

3 ways to detach yourself from the STRESSIN’ that is PRESSIN' down on you!

AND

3 ways to quit your pressure cooker behaviour too..as the change aways begins within you!

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3 WAYS TO DECOMPRESS FROM THE OTHER PERSON'S STRESS?

1.Create some SPACE!

As sung by the great philosopher Kelly Clarkson”...”just walk away”!

Leaving the tense, chaotic or overwhelming atmosphere will stop the amplification? of the other person's emotions and nervous energy, it will give you time to discern what is your pressure and problem and give you time to decompress and gain clarity on how important the task, issue or the situation actually is.?

There is no truth in a fractious? atmosphere and no good decision was ever made from this space of anger, upset or overwhelm.?

If you taker your emotion, anger and amplification out the situation the other person can start to simmer without ever reaching boiling point!

2.Communicate with CLARITY??

Don't react and attack!

Instead communicate with clarity in order to create space and distance needed for an honourable solution focused? response…

“I'll get back to you on that tomorrow."

There is no truth in emotional wave, so to avoid the regret sleep on it and from this space of neutrality your thoughts and subsequent actions will be very different.

Remember going night night will prevent the need for hindsight!

“Give me space to seek clarity on this matter so i can do the very best job ."

A little bit of righteous manipulation here, but it reassures the other that you are doing it to help them which whilst in their predatory out for themselves mindset will give them a reason to allow you the space you require.?

“I hear you and understand the importance it has for you so give me some time so i can better serve and assist you on this matter."

I HEAR YOU...helps the other feel valued and safe, sometimes the other person may simply need to vent..when they feel heard what appeared at first to be real pressure is actually just a bit of hot air… they will feel secure having this reassurance that they have been acknowledge…now whats there black cloud of pressure completely dissipate!

3. Cultivate some COMPASSION …

Before you start handing out hugs to your stressed out boss you can deliver compassion through simple awareness…

Awareness? that in the moment they are in the primal amygdala hijack.

Awareness in the moment that this is them doing their best (albeit a bit crap crap).

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Awareness that this attack/ manipulation or projection is not personal but is in fact coming from their need to attenuate feelings of fear, insecurity and inadequacy.

This will allow you to see all the shouting and metaphorical faeces throwing is actually a way for them to feel a sense of safety and security, you just happen to be in their auric field!

With this compassion it can be much easier for you not to jump into their drama with a reaction? or get suckered into their manipulation with repression and complacency.

With this awareness there is no need for a full on office revolute or a compromise of yourself through slavery. ?

Compassion is your armour to protect you from the flames of the other person's bonfire.

With this protection you can lead with an empathetic detachment, to assist in easing the pressure without taking it on and confusing it as your own.?

PS… SOMETIMES THE PRESSURE COMES FROM THAT PERSON YOU SEE IN THE MIRROR EACH MORNING!?

Your IMPACT & THRIVE 3 WAYS FIX to manage and relieve your own head pressure without being the office stressor!

APPROACH WITH CAUTION!?

1. Approach with self? perception… "How is my mood", your mood will dictate your delivery, your delivery will dictate the receptiveness from the other and this will dictate the outcome of the interaction.???
2. Approach with precision… after assessing your mood ensure that the person you places the task upon is the right person for the job, not just from your perspective but also from the perspective of the other... Have they got capacity to help? AND Do there skills, gifts and enthusiasm match with the talk at hand? If the other is lit up interaction and communication will be easy and so the outcome will be awesome too?
3. Approach with passion.. This will be received by the other as motivation and not dictation ! When all this energy of pressure is transformed into passion and drive the task at hand will be tackled creatively, innovation and generally quicker then when you where piling on the pressure!?

Need help turning the pressure cooker off in your life?...?

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