Unconditional Love

In my honest opinion YES, TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE EXISTS.

Feelings and emotions are real. If you truly love a person, you will love them forever, even though they can't see you that way. That's why love is always unconditional.

You bring out the best in each other.

You love that person because you want to, not because you have that hope that someday she will love you back. If you just hope for being loved back, that's not unconditional love to begin with. You love because your feelings for her are real, deep and true.

It is definitely not because we want our love to be validated.

It is not because we are stubborn to accept the reality.

It is not because we haven't found a better one.

It is not because we aren't able to find someone better than her. It is not because rejection has hurt us and hit us hard.

It is not because we are obsessed.

It is not because our ego got hurt real bad.

It is just because we truly love that person.

In my case, I still truly love her even after so many ears of unrequited love. May be she wouldn't realize till the end and see me only as a soul mate, and that's OK. I have tried my best and still be there for her.

Unrequited love is often thought of to be for people with self esteem.

Sometimes, it is because those involved in that are true. And they are kind hearted and pure at heart. It takes a hell lot of courage to love someone unrequited and without expecting anything in return.

What makes us love?

 It can never be explained with mere words.

She just want to feel his desire—She want him to look at her like he wants her!

I wish she’d just let go, I have no idea if she likes how I’m touching her.

He asks her if she wants to have sex just like she’s asking if he wants a cup of coffee—how is that supposed to turn her on?

She doesn’t even know what she wants. Her version of communication is to tell her where not to touch, but not what feels good.

I hear these statements all the time. Folks in long-term relationships wanting more passionate sex, with no understanding of how to create it. 

Strangely enough, it’s often easier for people to feel their more primal sexual self in affairs or short-term relationships.

For many reasons, including the fact that the body releases extraordinarily powerful neurochemicals in response to a new sex partner, people can more easily access physical sensations and ignore their thinking brains. 

But in long-term relationships—romances where, theoretically, we should have greater trust and comfort with our partner—the natural diminishment of these neurochemicals allows our minds, including our negative thoughts, to have much more power. 

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Thank you …For most couples in long-term relationships, primal sex is an essential element of a great sex life. 

But we dislike feeling vulnerable so much that we feel inclined to keep our most intimate thoughts and feelings safely hidden behind a veil of boredom or criticism.

It becomes easier to watch movies showing other couples having the kind of sex we long for or read about it in romance novels.

Vicarious experience allows us some of the sensation with none of the risk.

This adventure will be much more comfortable and successful if you both agree to embark on it together. 

Otherwise, you’ll likely feel too vulnerable, and your partner may feel threatened by your increased intensity. (Sex emanating from the body can be much more intense than sex when you are reacting to your thoughts). 

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To express your body’s desire, you first have to be in tune with it. It’s called embodiment, and for most of us, this involves an ongoing practice of bringing your awareness away from your thoughts and instead, focusing on physical sensation.

Believe me, this takes practice and diligence, such as with regular meditation or yoga. 

Our thoughts are so loud and compelling that without effort to the contrary, we spend most of our time listening to them. Plus, tuning into our bodies means feeling things, including emotions like fear or embarrassment, or physical discomfort.

You probably spend more time trying to dissociate from your body than you realize. We all do.

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Learn to tolerate sexual intensity.

Don’t giggle, make jokes, or talk baby talk in its presence. Instead, embrace your partners' raw sexual passion.

Diffusing it in any way will reduce the chances that your partner will ever show you this side of themselves again.

And if they aren’t willing to go there, you’ll feel that it’s too risky for you to go there alone. 

Ultimately, this process is about giving yourself permission to access your deepest sexual self.

Blaming your partner for an uninteresting sex life is a safe way to let yourself off the hook. 

Embark on this sexual quest together.

It can feel risky, because anytime we expose more of ourselves, we fear rejection and humiliation.

But if you and your long-term partner can support each other along this path, the prize is an extraordinary deepening of your sexual relationship.

Unfortunately, loving unconditionally may set us up for disappointment and shame when our ideal doesn’t match the reality of how difficult — or perhaps impossible — it is to love unconditionally.

If only your partner would love you like your dog loves you. You want to be loved for who you are, not who others think you should be.

Getting to real love isn't easy, but it can be done.

Avoiding the power struggles and the blaming.

As most people age, most of them come to prioritize unconditional relationships — relationships where each person is accepted unconditionally for whoever he or she is, without additional expectations.

This is called “adulthood” and it’s a mystical land that few people, regardless of their age, ever see, much less inhabit.