Uncertain times call for yet another Mindset Change - my musings on life right now

Hi all! This article is about my musings and thoughts around transitions and change.

I hope this will be encouraging to anyone going through life changes or business changes that require regrouping and re-thinking things.

Those who know me, know that I enjoy creating - whether blog posts, images, videos, writing books or increasing my product and service offerings, as well as developing my life and relationships to get them to a place where they make sense to me - and constantly evolving and growing is a big part of who I am.

Life changes, life challenges mean that I now need to re-assess everything. Yes, everything!

I wrote a book on self-care and support others grow in their self-care practices through my facebook group, and in future through other stuff - paid and free. I wrote the book after 20 years of learning to set boundaries and meet my needs.

I am by no means "there". I don't think I ever will be, and that's fine. It makes me human!

Sometimes as therapists, writers, and people that share knowledge on different mediums, we forget that we can also use the advice and tools we provide for others.

In this time of my life, I'm gathering all the things I've told others and telling them to myself now:

• you don't have to do everything at once
• what's the rush? take it one step at a time and slowly but surely you'll get there
• how you're feeling right now is temporary, even if it feels like it will never end
• trust that you've honed your craft (in life and business) and that you're doing a great job even though that little dark voice inside is telling you otherwise
• be kind to yourself

It's great stuff, right!

It's all really helping me regroup and find a new way of doing things.

I won't go into the health issues I've had over the last few years as I don't want to bore anyone - to be honest I'm bored with them myself!

But they're a reality and I've got to accept that this is where things are (I'm on the process of sorting them, but some might be here to stay, so reassessing will be key, for my sanity and for my life and business to develop further).

I've got soooo maaaanyy ideas for products and services that I'm positive will help those that I reach, but if I'm not in good shape, I can't create them or get them out in public.

So, in this time of transitions and changes, I've amended my plan...I'm constantly amending it, it feels...

I know what I want to do, but my body is saying NO! Right now.

Rather than giving up on these things and getting frustrated (I do get frustrated, and beyond! But I am working through it, looking out for the light at the end of the tunnel!) I'm taking it easy.

Right now, my main priority is my mental and physical health.

My one-to-one sessions are going well.

I'm happy with that side of the business and therefore just need to continue keeping that up to scratch with learning and nurturing the relationships with my coaching, counselling and coaching clients, my supervisees, students, and network on social media and offline.

That is a huge reminder that I'm on the right track. But I've had to remind myself that this is the case.

Ambition gets the best of me sometimes and I've caught it on time. I can stop and re-think things.

The next steps in my life and business are going to get going, with support - asking for help is key right now, which is why I've got a VA now that's helping out with what I can afford to pay her for the time being. Later on I might be comfortable - financially and because I'm a control freak! - to delegate more tasks.

I'm re-assessing my time and a big part of my week is now for self-care and low-key work (neverending admin!)

One week in 8 is dedicated to self-care and admin, it all depends on where I am health wise when my scheduled week off comes around!

Flexibility is key to being kind to myself and getting things done.

I am not happy with this change all the time, I'm getting there though.

It's hard to think that 10 years ago I could do so much, had so much energy, but now I don't.

Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't want to do the same I did when I was studying my PGDip - studying, placement, personal therapy, full time low-paid care work the rest of my free time. 24/7 hard work.

Dreaming and planning are necessary right now so I can get stuff done, so I can help more people. So I can do it without burning out.

So these next months I will be doing my best to still bring great content and offerings but also look after myself in a bigger way.

New stuff might be slower than I expected it to be, but that's OK!

If you're feeling like you're not working as fast as you "should" or that you want to get stuff out there for your audience, but it's not happening or it's overwhelming you to know how or where to start, you're in good company!

We have got this! We just need time to reassess and rethink things. That's absolutely fine.

Let's keep going.

Let's be kind to ourselves.

Watch this space...