The types of Love you get in life

This week is Valentine's wee and therefore is full of Love. The most beautiful feeling in the whole world. But rare are the ones who can find real, pure love. Somehow, we always suffer in love and then we find what we craved all the time.

But if it is something we wanted the whole time, I guess it pays off. What people often miss seeing is that there are different types of love and that every one of them can make them happy if it is real. We shouldn’t connect love only to the love that we feel toward our partner but toward other people as well.

Eros Love - This is what is considered to be an erotic kind of love that comes from the Greek god of love. It is the type of love we feel when we are romantically and sexually attracted to someone. In this phase of falling in love, people lose their mind and they can’t control what they do. They are willing to do anything for the person they have fallen for and they don’t think about the consequences.

Philia Love- This is the second type of love, also known as friendship. It is clear and pure love without any interest. This kind of love is a different type of love than Eros since Eros is founded on physical attraction, while this kind of love is not connected to it at all. Only real friends can feel this kind of love and will never ask for something in return for doing so.

Storge Love- This type of love is very similar to philia but the only difference is that this one happens within the family. It is the kind of love you can feel toward your parents and your children. It is the pure and clean type of love where you don’t care what you gain from it but you instinctively give it. Also, you can find this kind of love among kids who develop it while they are growing up.

Ludus Love- This kind of love is also called playful love and can be seen between two lovers at the beginning of a romantic relationship. At this stage, lovers burn in love and they enjoy every second that they spend with each other. And even if it is pleasant, it can also be quite impulsive and full of different feelings, such as anxiety, anger, obsession, neediness, and depression. Lovers don’t realize that they are playing with fire and that they can get burned. They don’t think about the consequences and they go all in.

Mania Love- This kind of love is also known as obsessive love. In most cases, it happens when the partners are young and without any love experience. They believe the person they fell in love with is the one and that nobody else can love them in the same way. Some have serious issues and they act clingy and needy, waiting for their partner to make all their dreams come true.

Pragma Love - If you were lucky enough to have this form of love, then you should thank heaven for it. This kind of love is the one that is mature and long-term, bringing only harmony and happiness into your life. You can find it in old couples who have been together for a long time. In this kind of love, a woman wants her man to love her unconditionally and to be faithful to her, while the man seeks all the qualities of a good woman in his partner.

Philautia Love- Philautia or self-love is a type of love people often mistake for narcissism. When someone mentions self-love, people immediately think that it is something wrong but it doesn’t have to be like that. This love can be healthy like any other form and I would say that it is essential to first love yourself so you could do that for others.

Agape Love- Agape is an unconditional and universal kind of love that doesn’t have anything to do with desires or interests. It is the altruistic type of love where we love, not expecting anything in return. It is not the type of love that passes and vanishes but the one that always stays in us. It is something much bigger than our expectations, something almost impossible to feel or get. It is true empathy toward people and deeply understanding their needs and thoughts. It is love that doesn’t hold grudges, that forgives and that is always a shelter where you can go after life slaps you or brings you down.

Cheers!