Turning Survival Moments into Thriving Opportunities for Our Children and Ourselves
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Turning Survival Moments into Thriving Opportunities for Our Children and Ourselves

How often do we find ourselves just trying to get through the day instead of feeling like we're thriving? It's a question that many of us can relate to, especially in today's fast-paced world where the demands of daily life can often leave us feeling like we're in survival mode.

But what if I told you that these very moments, when it seems like we're merely trying to survive, hold the potential for us and our children to not just survive, but to thrive?

This profound idea comes from the wisdom of Dr. Dan Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson in their book, "The Whole-Brain Child," and it invites us to reframe our perspective on life's challenges. Let's delve into this concept and discover how it applies both to our children and to ourselves as adults and parents.


Understanding the Concept:

When we think of survival moments, we typically envision times of crisis or stress, moments when we are just trying to get through the day, or instances of emotional upheaval. These moments can be challenging, but they can also be catalysts for growth and development if we approach them with intention and understanding.


Applying it to Our Children:

  1. Temper Tantrums: Instead of simply surviving a child's temper tantrum, view it as an opportunity to teach emotional regulation. Help them identify and express their feelings, teaching them that it's okay to feel and that they can learn to manage their emotions.
  2. Bedtime Battles: Rather than seeing bedtime as a struggle, turn it into a routine that promotes connection. Create a calming bedtime ritual, read a book together, and use this time to bond and nurture your child's emotional well-being.
  3. Sibling Rivalry: Sibling conflicts are inevitable, but they can teach valuable lessons about conflict resolution and empathy. Guide your children in resolving their disputes and encourage them to understand each other's perspectives.


Applying it to Ourselves as Adults and Parents:

  1. Stressful Work Situations: When facing a demanding job or workplace stress, use it as an opportunity to develop resilience and coping strategies. Seek support, practice self-care, and learn from the challenges to grow both personally and professionally.
  2. Relationship Struggles: Instead of merely surviving a difficult relationship moment, consider it a chance for self-reflection and growth. Communication breakdowns can be opportunities to learn better ways of connecting and resolving conflicts.
  3. Personal Crisis: In times of personal crisis, such as illness or loss, acknowledge your emotions and seek support. These moments can lead to profound personal growth, increased resilience, and a deeper appreciation for life.


How to Approach Survival Moments:

  1. Mindfulness: Pause and become aware of your emotions and reactions during survival moments. Mindfulness can help you respond with intention rather than reacting impulsively.
  2. Emotional Coaching: Practice emotional coaching with your children and yourself. Acknowledge feelings, validate them, and work together to find constructive solutions.
  3. Seek Growth: Instead of aiming to simply get through survival moments, strive to learn from them and use them as stepping stones toward personal and familial growth.


Survive Moments are Thrive Moments:

A survival moment is also a thrive moment.

Seeing both as part of the meaningful work of parenting allows us to create opportunities to connect on a deeper level with our children. It's in these moments of challenge and vulnerability that our bonds can strengthen, and we can impart valuable life skills to our children.

In conclusion, this concept reminds us that life's challenges, even when they feel overwhelming, can serve as opportunities for growth, connection, and thriving. By embracing these moments with empathy, intention, and resilience, we can not only survive but also flourish as individuals and as families. So, the next time you find yourself in a survival moment, remember that it might just be the gateway to something beautiful and transformative.

Doug Whitewolff

Everything is practice. What are you getting good at?

1 年

Your post captures a sentiment that many people can identify with, especially parents juggling multiple responsibilities. The concept of moving from "surviving" to "thriving" is crucial not just for adults but also for children who are still in their formative years. In my work at Transformation Math LLC, we've found that introducing mindfulness practices in educational settings can serve as a powerful tool for managing stress and anxiety. This fosters an environment where students, and by extension their families, can thrive rather than just survive. By focusing on breath, embodiment, and self-awareness, individuals gain the mental clarity and emotional balance needed to engage more fully with their learning and life experiences. Mindfulness, when integrated into family life, can be a stepping stone towards transforming survival mode into thriving mode. Your article offers an essential perspective, one that is often overlooked in the rush of everyday life. #ThrivingNotSurviving #MindfulnessInEducation #TransformativeLearning

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Dr. Joanette Weisse, MD

Founder of The BEJO Network -Healthy Longevity Lifestyle | ER Attending Physician | Adjunct Clinical Professor | Clinical Researcher | Author & Speaker l

1 年

I love this reframe, and there are so many places in our parenting day were we can connect with our kids and help them thrive. A tradition I started with my kids and now they have continued with my grandkids is when they got home from school, I'd have a snack ready, and we would sit down and talk about our day. There was no pressure to say anything but just a welcoming space for conversation, eating their snack, and talking about their day if they wanted to. Now that they are adults they all tell me, that time contains some of the best memories of feeling loved, nourished, and connected.

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Kati Harris??

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1 年

Being able to reframe is life-changing!

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Jenny Hopkins

Career change coach for parents | Helping you find your next (better) version of working parent life | Mum to 2

1 年

Such a great reframe!

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Abu Saleh

Helping Founders, Coaches & Executives 10x Their LinkedIn Growth with Powerful Personal Branding

1 年

Promoting positive parenting and family life is crucial, Mindy Green! ???????? Your work to support parents is making a meaningful impact. Keep up the great work!

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