Turning a Sh*t Sandwich Into Filet Mignon

Last week I was super excited to get my hair cut and colors. I had this vision in my head and was ready for a transformation.

To my horror, my hair ended up being anything other than what I desired. My skin has a cool undertone. My hair is fine and very straight. I wanted a cool looking ombre. What I got was a horrid copper color, which with having cool undertone looks dreadful, and lots of layers.

I live in Houston. Even if I “style” my hair, it falls. The best thing for me is to have a hair cut that allows my naturally straight hair to do its thing but look decent.

And I’ve had cuts like that in the past. By the same person who colored my hair in this manner and cut all the layers. To say I was disappointed is an understatement.

Yesterday, I met a really good friend for lunch. It was a spontaneous gathering. The first thing she said was WTF happened to your hair?

My feelings were confirmed. Nothing about my hair was good. My heart sunk and I had pretty much thought I’d just keep doing what I had done for a couple months and go see someone else. Which was painful because I do love and care about the person who cut my hair and have known them for many years.

At lunch, my friend talked me through what to do. MAKE A PHONE CALL. The mere thought of confronting who had cut my hair made me cringe. Hence, I was prepared to pony tail it up for a couple months.

Finding the courage and mustering the confidence to confront what I perceived to be a wrong (copper two toned hair that cannot be styled by me) was a challenge. My friend was in disbelief. Her words to me were “I’ve never known you to give a fuck about what anyone thinks.”

True enough. BUT this was someone’s art.

I made the call and today I am going back in to have it fixed. So paws crossed I will feel confident enough to take selfies again. Because I have not in months. My hair has been my nemesis.

Something else happened recently that made me go hmm.

When I entered the online entrepreneurial space, I joined a MLM. Honestly, when you join a company, you are ill prepared to really make a name for yourself if you do not have a built in following. At least this is my take.

I met a lovely woman in a training group that we both paid to be in and we clicked. Both she and I were on the struggle bus trying to figure shit out. Recently, she decided to join different company. I wished her well. I made it clear I was not interested. We remained close and spoke often.

Something made me feel uneasy when I saw a post that a woman on my team made. I suspected that she had been approached (prospected) by my friend for this other business. I kept an eye on it and sure enough new products arrived and were posted by my team-mate.

She was still on my team and I thought well she just wanted to supplement. No worries.

Until last night when I could not sleep and happened to check email. Around 2:30 AM I discovered she had canceled her business under me. Never a peep. Not any warning. Just canceled.

What bothers me about this is that both women never said a thing to me. My friend did not ask if it was OK to prospect someone under me, she just did it. The person under me never said she planned to leave. She just did.

I felt hurt. Angry. And started to question my ability.

That’s when I decided to turn shit into gold. So now instead of blaming myself and questioning what I could have done differently, I am looking at this for what it can teach me. What am I to learn out of this situation?

And that is my message to you. When you face adversity, rather than go down a trail of woe, get curious about it. It happened for a reason. There are lessons to learn. Focus on how you can use your challenges to find strength and learn.

The thing is no matter the situation, you attracted your today into your life. Whatever energy you have positive or negative, you are an energetic match for what comes your way next.

When things go south, and at some point they will, ask yourself what can you take away from the situation that helps you be a better you.

I did let both women know how I felt about the whole thing and wished both well. At this moment, I still feel the sting of hurt. BUT, I am going to get really curious about it and start writing. I will just allow whatever needs to come of me to come out.

How you handle any sort of adversity, whether you allow it to swallow you up or you confront it head on will determine what happens next in your life.

In both instances, I opened my mouth. I was uncomfortable so but it needed to be done.

Everything is always working out for your higher good. Even when, it feels like betrayal.

Both of these stories become part of my story at large. Your story is important. But you don’t have to blurt it all out at once. You can use instances as lessons for others.

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