Turning the Page: Reflecting on a Year of Growth and New Horizons

As the final pages of this year are gently turned, we find ourselves at a significant crossroads – a juncture of reflection and anticipation. This moment, much like a solemn graduation ceremony, signifies more than the end of a calendar year; it represents the culmination of a journey filled with learning, growth, and transformation. Just as graduates stand at the precipice of their future, we too are poised on the brink of new beginnings and untapped potential.

In this edition of the newsletter, I invite you to join me in a reflective odyssey that traverses the landscape of personal change and resilience. It's a story that mirrors the dual essence of graduation and commencement – a poignant farewell to a chapter of life that has run its course and the eager greeting of a new chapter yet to be written.

As we delve into these narratives, we explore not only the bittersweet farewells that come with life's graduations but also the vibrant possibilities that commence in their wake. This journey is not just my own; it is a shared path where each twist and turn resonates with universal themes of change, challenge, and renewal.

In the spirit of commencement, this newsletter is an invitation to look ahead with hope and determination. It's an encouragement to embrace the lessons learned and to use them as a compass for the adventures that lie ahead. So, as we bid adieu to what was and turn our gaze towards what will be, let's do so with the wisdom and strength gained from the experiences that have shaped us.

Together, let's embark on this journey of reflection and anticipation, pondering the transformative power of our personal graduations and the exciting prospects of our future commencements.

The Final Curtain of a Shared Life

A year ago, stepping out of the marital home wasn't just a change of address; it was the closing of a chapter rich in memories, hopes, and dreams. It was an emotional odyssey. The dwelling, a three-bedroom semi-detached house was more than just a structure; it was a canvas where a shared life was painted, filled with laughter, plans, and shared secrets. A testament to a life we built together. Each room echoed with memories, every corner a reminder of a partnership once thriving and vibrant. Leaving it behind meant letting go of not just the tangible space, it marked the end of an era, a poignant farewell to a chapter filled with both joy and sorrow, as well as the shared future it represented. A profound transition, as I shifted from a partnership to an individual journey, a shift that was as much about untying emotional knots as it was about physical relocation. Moving into a smaller, one-bedroom flat symbolised this change – a more confined space, a step into the unknown, leaving behind the security of a familiar past for an uncertain future, yet one that offered the freedom into a journey of self-redefinition, my identity away from the shadows of a shared past.

Have you ever had to leave behind a significant part of your life, and how did it redefine your sense of self?

Graduation: A Transition to Self-Discovery

Graduation marks the completion of a particular phase, symbolising the conclusion of one chapter and the readiness to move forward. For me, this transition from a shared life to an individual path was my graduation – a pivotal point where the old roles and routines concluded, giving way to self-exploration and personal growth.

What have been your moments of graduation this year, and how have they shaped your journey forward?

The Other Side of a Promise

Just ten days before this pivotal moment (unbeknownst to me), the last threads of my marriage unraveled when my soon-to-be ex-husband began a new chapter with someone else. This revelation was not just a betrayal of a vow; it was a stark awakening to the impermanence of promises and the fragility of shared dreams. It brought into sharp focus the harsh truth that sometimes, the paths we embark upon with others diverge in the most unexpected ways. This moment served as a poignant reminder of how our expectations in relationships are often reflections of our own desires and needs, and not necessarily aligned with the realities of our partners. The unclear, unseeing, or unaccepting disparity that can exist between our expectations and the independent realities of those we are with. It highlighted the importance of acknowledging and accepting that each individual in a relationship has their own journey, and these journeys may not always converge, despite shared histories and promises made.

How often have your expectations in relationships mirrored your own desires rather than the shared reality?

Putting a Business on Pause

The decision to pause my business was a crossroads moment, born out of the turmoil of personal upheaval. This business, a culmination of dreams and hard work. This pause, while a professional setback, laden with uncertainty and disappointment, was a necessary step to prioritise my immediate emotional and practical needs. This period has been a testament to the challenging balance many of us must strike between professional aspirations and personal well-being. It was a pause, not an end, a period of recalibration where the focus shifted from external success to internal stability, whilst navigating the complexities of starting over. This decision posed a significant question: how do we prioritise when life's scales tip unexpectedly? The answer often lies in embracing the pause, understanding its necessity, and using it as a time for reflection, healing and growth.

Have you ever faced a situation where pausing your professional ambitions was necessary for personal growth?

Working in Transition

Continuing in a role that offered little in terms of career progression was a choice made under the constraints of necessity. This job, not aligned with my long-term aspirations, became a temporary anchor in the storm of change, a safe haven. It provided a semblance of stability in a time of flux. Though it lifted me personally, it was still a deviation from my true professional desire. This experience echoes a familiar narrative for many – the acceptance of a role that serves immediate needs over long-term ambitions. It's a compromise, a balancing act between what we must do and what we aspire to do, highlighting the often difficult choices we face in pursuit of stability and security. It raises an important question about how we navigate the sometimes conflicting demands of practical necessity and personal fulfilment.

Have you ever found yourself in a role that felt more like a compromise than a true step towards your dreams?

A Turbulent Year of Self-Discovery

This past year has been a journey through a tempest of emotions and experiences, a testament to the unpredictable nature of life. Yet, from this turbulence emerged a newfound understanding and resilience. It has been a year where every challenge faced has contributed to a deeper sense of self-awareness and strength. This period of self-discovery has been about peeling back layers, confronting truths, challenging preconceived notions, and emerging with a clearer sense of self and purpose. It has been a monument to the human spirit's ability to adapt and grow in the face of adversity. It's a journey that many can relate to – a path through difficulty that leads to personal growth and self-realisation.

What challenges have you faced this year, and how have they contributed to your journey of self-discovery?

The Positives of Embarking on This Journey

Despite its challenges, this journey has been immensely rewarding. It has been a period of learning the true value of self-care, self-love, and the empowerment of putting oneself first. Embracing the Crone Wisdom has been a celebration of the strength, wisdom, and insight gained through life's experiences. It's a journey that speaks to the transformative power of embracing life’s changes and understanding that each challenge faced is an opportunity for growth and enlightenment.

In what ways have you embraced self-care and self-love, and how have these practices transformed your life?

Commencement: Stepping into a New Future

Commencement, the beginning of something new, represents the forward movement into new experiences, challenges, and opportunities. For me, this new chapter is not just about moving forward; it’s about flourishing, about forging a path that is uniquely mine, filled with purpose and passion. It's a commencement into a chapter where the lessons of the past lay the groundwork for a future brimming with possibilities and achievements. It’s an opportunity to redefine what success and fulfilment mean to me, on my own terms.

As you stand on the brink of a new beginning, what does commencement signify for you, and how do you envision shaping your future?

As we stand on the threshold of a new year, let us not only embrace our individual graduations and commencements but also step forward with courage and anticipation. Together, let us weave a tapestry of resilience, learning, and hope, recognising these experiences as integral parts of our continuous journey of growth and self-discovery. May this new year be a testament to our collective strength and the endless potential of our new horizons.

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Looking forward to seeing your stories and insights as we step into a new year of possibilities and growth!

With passion comes joy.

Valerie x