Truths of Life that Young Men Need to Understand

Here are some facts of life you have to know, accept and even embrace as become a man. Young men out there, this is for you.

These are some things about life your mother will never tell you. They are some hard truths I was taught by my father and by one of my mentors who is ex US Army special forces. The sooner you understand and accept these truths, it takes the guess work out of a lot of things in life.

1) The world is giant ego, so people are generally selfish, shady and only care about number 1, despite the moral cost of their actions and effects on others. It would be wise to assume and prepare for the fact that someone will screw you over if they can. If they have the chance to, 9 out of 10 times they will take it.

People with a sense of dignity and honor are hard to find in this world.

2) Life is not fair and you cannot expect people to mirror you.

Meaning that you can do 99 things for someone you consider to be a friend, yet in an argument they will focus on is the 1 thing you did not do. You can be there for them in times of need, but they won't always be there for you. It sucks, but that's just how shit works for men.

3) There is no such thing as "unconditional love" for a grown man.

You might get it as a boy from mommy and daddy, but once your balls drop and you grow some hair on your chest, its over. As a man you are only loved for what you provide. The moment you stop providing, the conditions of the love end. The moment you stop fulfilling a role, need or want, people look elsewhere and quickly forget about you so loyalty is rare. Cherish it if you find it in friends or relationship.

In divorce, the children can be used against you as weapons of suffering for a woman's vengence (as I was). The law will be on her side despite her being wrong or right.

Getting married in today's world is a BAD idea because the law is not on your side. Things are so bad these days that you can end up being ordered to pay child support and alimony in divorce for kids that are not even yours.

4) Your reality is perforamance based, so no one really cares about your struggles. When you try something new, most people are secretely hoping you fail so you don't make them insecure about their lack of balls to try to do anything new in life. Beware of "frenimies" and fake friends.

5) When you are out with your women, some insecure men get off on the idea of being able to take her from you or simply make you look bad in front of her just so they have a small chance to look good.

6) You need to know how to fight. If you cannot defend yourself or your loved ones, then you are useless in a real situation and probably a coward. Not many other men nor women will respect you if you are a coward.

7) Your time, trust and attention need to be valued and equally earned. The more you undervalue yourself and treat someone you are attracted to like a celebrity, then that person will end up treating you like a fan. So if you do not want to be walked on, it would be a wise idea not to lay on the ground.

Women have a 6th sense for despiar, so if you come off as needy, to thirsty, you give your time, attention and resources away too freely or if you are always at their beck and call, then one of two things will happen:

1) They will USE you for free resources and attention. Attention is a source of validation so even if a woman has no intention of being romantically involved with you, she will still expect you to "treat her like a lady" just so SHE feels validated.

2) You will be seen as unattractive or repulsive. Being desperate for sex, attention, affection or anything in life is a big turn off so do not show that side of yourself to people. Work on your problems first before they cause you to do stupid shit that makes you look weak and get taken for a fool.

This happened to me so I can speak from experience on both.

8. For men and women alike, being fat is a sign of a lack of discipline and that someone is lazy. They will find ideas to justify their position and spin it around in silly ways so it makes sense to them....Like this whole "body positivity" nonsense. There is nothing positive about living a life that sets you up for health problems later onand limites your ability to birth healthy children. Be careful getting involved with someone who lacks self control and is greedy. They will likely betray you for their own interests.

Their physique is a direct reflection of their values.

9) Focus on your goals, purpose and stay in shape. There is NO VALID excuse for being out of shape. The only reason is because you are lazy and have no control over your desires. In reality, the only thing you can fully control is what you put in your mouth and if/when you move your body.

10) Never trust a man that is not faithful and lies to his woman. If he can lie to her, whats stopping him from lying to you?

11) The company you keep will determine your future.

If you hang out with people who like drama, don't have anything interesting to say, love to gossip about others and have no goals nor ambitions other than drinking and getting laid.....you may have some fun; but you will not likely accomplish much and your life will be a mess.

12) Above all else, work hard, keep your word, stay in shape, practice discipline, grow some balls and do what you want to do with your life to live it fully.

The main one stopping you 99.9% of the time.....is the asshole in your head making excuses and telling you not to change, even though you know you should and it would be better for you.