The Truth About Why You're Stuck

If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Why can’t I just follow through?”—you’re not alone. The reason you’re stuck isn’t a lack of willpower or discipline. It’s something much deeper.

Every habit and behavior you repeat (even the ones that frustrate you) stems from your thoughts. Those thoughts create your feelings, and those feelings drive your actions—or inaction.

Let’s look at an example:

Say you want to prioritize self-care, like going to bed earlier. But your thought is, “I didn’t get enough done today—I’ll feel better if I catch up tonight.”

That thought creates a feeling of guilt or inadequacy.

When you feel guilty, you stay up late trying to squeeze in just a little more—folding laundry, answering emails, or scrolling to “relax.”

But here’s what happens next: You wake up exhausted, frustrated with yourself, and promise to “try harder” the next night. The cycle repeats, not because you’re lazy or undisciplined, but because the root thought (“I didn’t get enough done”) is fueling the pattern.

Even if you try to force yourself into bed earlier, the guilt lingers. Without shifting the thought, the action won’t stick.

Here’s the shift:

What if you replaced “I didn’t get enough done” with “I did my best today, and rest is productive too”?

That new thought might create a feeling of calm or even pride, which supports the aligned action of going to bed when you said you would—without guilt keeping you up.

This is why self-awareness is the key.

Before you try to “fix” your habits or force action, pause. Reflect. Understand what’s driving the cycle.

Because here’s the thing— You can’t change what you don’t understand.

And you don’t have to beat yourself up to create change. Meet yourself with compassion. Understand your patterns. Rewrite the story you’re telling yourself.

That’s how you shift from stuck to unstoppable.

Aligned action starts with self-awareness—not hustle or forcing.

I challenge you to ask yourself today:

What thought is keeping me stuck, and how can I choose a new one?

xoxo - Alex

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