The Truth Behind Emotional Eating
Vanessa O'Brien
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Most of us have habits, don't we? I've had many. I used to use sweets as my emotional crutch. Jelly sweets to be precise and I could polish off a large bag before anyone else had opened theirs. They didn't even touch the sides, I didn't taste them, I would just plough my way through until they'd gone, and not just one bag. When did I do it? When I was feeling stressed or unhappy. And for that short moment, I felt better.
Another of my habits used to be tidying... obsessively tidying - or rather moving things into piles and then straightening the piles. Straightening anything that wasn't straight and in line.
Well what if I was to tell you that emotional eating is a habit... And what are habits? Habits are simply thoughts....
Habits are those things that we feel driven to do, that we feel somewhat or completely out of control of, but that we know are not necessarily good or healthy for us, but we continue to do anyway.
Why? Because it's our greatest (and often best) option for feeling better! And all we ever want to do is feel better, to return to our innate state of wellbeing. My sweet addiction and my tidying obsession were purely ways I'd found to make myself feel better...
What starts as a one-off action feels good. Often really good! And so, we do it again. And again. And again. Until it finally becomes a habit, because we know it makes us feel better at that moment in time. But it also becomes a sub-conscious action which is why many people who work with me tell me they believe they are self-sabotaging but they don’t understand why. The reason they don’t understand why is becase they’re not. And the good news is that our innate or our true nature is perfectly well, healthy and habit-free. We just don't currently see it that way.
Seeing this new understanding of your human experience can have a profound impact, not just on issues around relationships with food but across your world, with the power to improve all areas of life.
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6 年So good to wake up to the myth of habits and habitual thinking.
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6 年I eat for emotions, to heighten them and to bring them down. I realised that I’ve given food a magical power it doesn’t have and although I still have the emotionally driven habit I am starting to see through it and hopefully it will return to being a source of nutrition and not a magic trick which back fires ??
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6 年Thanks for sharing Vee. It's amazing how quickly we pick up habits. Before we even recognise them as habits! And equally how quickly we need more of our fix before we feel ok again. I'd love to hear more about how were able to let go of the jelly sweets. I'm sure your story resonates with folk out there