Trustworthiness is proven over time by actions, not only by words.

If you've been betrayed or your trust was broken.

Do you think your trust was misplaced in someone untrustworthy?

Many people are unrealistic about trust.

They assume the worst and are distrustful, or they over trust and are easily taken in.

People in the first category put up walls and keep others at a distance.

The second group proudly claim to trust someone until they have a reason not to.

Then they’re shocked when they’ve relied on someone untrustworthy.

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In today’s mobile world, usually, when we first meet someone, we don’t know anything about their integrity or past conduct, except what they tell us.

Trustworthiness is proven over time by actions, not only by words. To be trustworthy, a person has to “walk their talk”—words and actions must be congruent.

You also have to be able to trust your perceptions, a skill difficult for some codependents who trust too little or too much. Being able to trust realistically is a learning process.

When you’ve grown up in a dysfunctional family environment where your parents kept secrets or invalidated your perceptions, you learned to doubt yourself.

You may become distrustful and/or the opposite, suggestible to what others say and disconnected from your own inner guidance system. Either way, you’re not able to realistically evaluate other people.

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Thank you?….Evaluating Trustworthiness

The following are qualities to look for when you’re getting to know someone and evaluating a person’s trustworthiness. They’re one and the same as elements that create trust and safety in relationships.

Honest Communication

Open and honest communication is the cornerstone of good relationships and building trust.

This is a problem in?co-dependent?relationships, because partners have difficulty knowing and openly and honestly discussing their feelings.

Communication is often indirect, reactive, and defensive. When you’re closed, it raises doubts and misunderstandings with your partner.

Firstly, get this straight: everyone’s out for themselves.

Trusting blindly is like walking into a jungle and thinking the lion won’t eat you because you don’t believe in carnivores.

Newsflash, champ, the lion doesn’t care about your beliefs. The world rewards the vigilant, the skeptical, and the strategically cautious—not the naive.

Do you want to add a word or two?

Let’s talk about relationships.

You think everyone who smiles at you is Halloween.

Think of trust like a currency.

Would you hand a stack of your hard-earned cash to every random stranger on the street?

No!

You’d be an imbecile to do so. Same logic applies. Your trust is valuable.

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Your comments…….

Treat it that way. Give it sparingly and require proof of worth from those seeking it. Watch how your life changes when you demand others to earn their place in your circle.

Let’s hit the core issue: self-respect.

?If you don’t value yourself enough to protect your interests, why should anyone else? Being too trusting screams desperation and low self-esteem.

It’s like you’re so eager for approval and companionship that you’re willing to overlook obvious red flags.

Respect yourself enough to set boundaries. Trust, but verify; that’s the golden rule.

Moreover, get yourself comfortable with the idea that most people aren’t as good or as benevolent as you hope.

They’ve got their own motives, their own hustle. Embrace a healthy dose of skepticism.

It’s a survival tool in the arena of life.

When you’re too trusting, you’re essentially disarming yourself, walking onto the battlefield without your armor.

Listen up! Winners navigate the treacherous waters of life by being vigilant, discerning, and strategic.

They know that trust must be tempered with prudence. They build walls high enough to protect but low enough to see over.

You don’t have to suspect everyone of malintent, but stop handing out trust like it’s an all-you-can-eat buffet.

Here’s my final word on this: If you’re too trusting, you’re playing a losing game.

Fortify yourself, scrutinize the people around you, and elevate your standards. Your life’s too valuable to be left vulnerable to the whims and plots of others.

Remember, trust is a rare currency. Spend it wisely. You're here to dominate, not to be played. Stay sharp, stay skeptical, and watch your empire grow.

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